"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Not giving attention to a girl works... example

Livinlifehard

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So i went to a UFC party last night... unlike most but these partys have a lot hot girls at them. So me and my friend (my friend is seeing one of the roomates there) and i see the girls and preppy girls are a turn off for me so i kinda didnt give 2 fvcks about them. I even told him "i am here to watch the fight, i am not here for girls, you know how i am". So the night goes on and me and this hot brazialian girl start talking... she is 4 years older then me... so she gets me drunk (she was drinking a lot too). and

she said "uh oh, your name is anthony, so we cant date"
i said "who the hell said i wanted to date you, i am just talking to you"
her "ya but were getting a long and stuff, so it would naturally come to that"
me "i will think about if i want to give you the chance"

then later
her "im mad... because you didnt notice me right when i walked in and come up to me"
me "i dont give 2 ****s if a girl is hot, ya theres hot girls here, but most of them are annoying to me kinda"
her "i compleatly understand"

plus me and my friend were up there in casual clothes, like nice but not expensive and poserish i guess you can say. then everyone elnce came in with that So-Cal or wanabe suave stuff on, all dressed up.... and i still pulled unintentionaly. So to end the story, we kissed a bit (she initiated it, plus the first black girl i have kissed) and slept on couch, got her number, and if you see preppy girls dont pay to much attention. like give and take... be kinda a ass to her "i dont think your up to my standards" and then say "you know your really beautiful"... keep her guessing.

just a random thread... peace out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Snow Plowman

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Whether you realize it or not, you were gaming her.

You basically disqualified yourself as a possible partner to her. That builds attraction, its similar to negs. I'm assuming she was giving a lot of **** tests but you really didn't care so the stuff you said you were very congruent too.
 

Jon55

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nah man u gotta play it like a gentlemen, give her mad attention first, and then take away... then rinse and repeat.......... not giving any girl attention and str8 up mocking them rarely works... but whatever works for you i guess.

I agree with this. The girl is going to go to the guy she can't get attention from who has already given her attention before.
 
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