Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Not giving attention to a girl works... example

Livinlifehard

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So i went to a UFC party last night... unlike most but these partys have a lot hot girls at them. So me and my friend (my friend is seeing one of the roomates there) and i see the girls and preppy girls are a turn off for me so i kinda didnt give 2 fvcks about them. I even told him "i am here to watch the fight, i am not here for girls, you know how i am". So the night goes on and me and this hot brazialian girl start talking... she is 4 years older then me... so she gets me drunk (she was drinking a lot too). and

she said "uh oh, your name is anthony, so we cant date"
i said "who the hell said i wanted to date you, i am just talking to you"
her "ya but were getting a long and stuff, so it would naturally come to that"
me "i will think about if i want to give you the chance"

then later
her "im mad... because you didnt notice me right when i walked in and come up to me"
me "i dont give 2 ****s if a girl is hot, ya theres hot girls here, but most of them are annoying to me kinda"
her "i compleatly understand"

plus me and my friend were up there in casual clothes, like nice but not expensive and poserish i guess you can say. then everyone elnce came in with that So-Cal or wanabe suave stuff on, all dressed up.... and i still pulled unintentionaly. So to end the story, we kissed a bit (she initiated it, plus the first black girl i have kissed) and slept on couch, got her number, and if you see preppy girls dont pay to much attention. like give and take... be kinda a ass to her "i dont think your up to my standards" and then say "you know your really beautiful"... keep her guessing.

just a random thread... peace out.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Snow Plowman

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Whether you realize it or not, you were gaming her.

You basically disqualified yourself as a possible partner to her. That builds attraction, its similar to negs. I'm assuming she was giving a lot of **** tests but you really didn't care so the stuff you said you were very congruent too.
 

Jon55

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Noob said:
nah man u gotta play it like a gentlemen, give her mad attention first, and then take away... then rinse and repeat.......... not giving any girl attention and str8 up mocking them rarely works... but whatever works for you i guess.

I agree with this. The girl is going to go to the guy she can't get attention from who has already given her attention before.
 
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