"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Not giving attention to a girl works... example

Livinlifehard

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So i went to a UFC party last night... unlike most but these partys have a lot hot girls at them. So me and my friend (my friend is seeing one of the roomates there) and i see the girls and preppy girls are a turn off for me so i kinda didnt give 2 fvcks about them. I even told him "i am here to watch the fight, i am not here for girls, you know how i am". So the night goes on and me and this hot brazialian girl start talking... she is 4 years older then me... so she gets me drunk (she was drinking a lot too). and

she said "uh oh, your name is anthony, so we cant date"
i said "who the hell said i wanted to date you, i am just talking to you"
her "ya but were getting a long and stuff, so it would naturally come to that"
me "i will think about if i want to give you the chance"

then later
her "im mad... because you didnt notice me right when i walked in and come up to me"
me "i dont give 2 ****s if a girl is hot, ya theres hot girls here, but most of them are annoying to me kinda"
her "i compleatly understand"

plus me and my friend were up there in casual clothes, like nice but not expensive and poserish i guess you can say. then everyone elnce came in with that So-Cal or wanabe suave stuff on, all dressed up.... and i still pulled unintentionaly. So to end the story, we kissed a bit (she initiated it, plus the first black girl i have kissed) and slept on couch, got her number, and if you see preppy girls dont pay to much attention. like give and take... be kinda a ass to her "i dont think your up to my standards" and then say "you know your really beautiful"... keep her guessing.

just a random thread... peace out.
 

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Snow Plowman

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Whether you realize it or not, you were gaming her.

You basically disqualified yourself as a possible partner to her. That builds attraction, its similar to negs. I'm assuming she was giving a lot of **** tests but you really didn't care so the stuff you said you were very congruent too.
 

Jon55

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nah man u gotta play it like a gentlemen, give her mad attention first, and then take away... then rinse and repeat.......... not giving any girl attention and str8 up mocking them rarely works... but whatever works for you i guess.

I agree with this. The girl is going to go to the guy she can't get attention from who has already given her attention before.
 
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