"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Not feeling like much of a DJ. :(

LinkinParkROX

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This is weird guys. I've got the whole DJ mindset/attitude for like 90% of the days. The other 10%, I feel like shit. I don't know why, I just feel "off". I'm not my usual ****y, funny, crazyass self. I look for what's wrong, what's causing me to feel this way, but it seems like nothing's wrong at all, everything's fine. I just feel low, not content, plus I notice a far lesser amount of self love when compared to other days. Help, please?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Allurre

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Everyone's going to go through times when they are deflated. Your energy tank needs refueling bro. Don't expect yourself to always be in the mood, your nature of your body can't follow.

It's like work. Work 24 hours straight and you will eventually go mind fried and burn out.
 

GrimPhallic

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Dude when this happens just get piss drunk lol. The liquor fuel always increases my dj skills lol.

Austin
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Thing is that i am too often on this board. In the beginning it was, opened doors for me, but now i am overloaded with all the information from here. Don't know where to start with girls and overanalyze everything.

It sucks
 

Groovy

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Yeah that happens sometimes. If you're okay one day and the next day your situation is the same but you're feeling different, it may be a sort of chemical inbalance. But even if it is just your chemistry, you don't have to be "Damn my body again, this is bad"- you can control a good deal of it. You can deal with that- For example if I am feeling depressed, I will talk to myself in a happier tone, or if I'm feeling anxious (With reason or without a reason- that can happen too sometimes) it helps A LOT to talk to yourself confidently. If you do make that effort it WILL pay off, you will feel cool with yourself and healthier! Give it a shot it may be that it's the "perfect" fix, as it is for me! :up:
 
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