Not all girls **** test...

[ubercat]

Actually with the Good Girls the ****test can you throw you off more easily because they are rare. I d say making fun of it is fairly safe ignoring even safer and then occasionally go and head on destroy her arguments and withdraw attention to generate a bit of abandonment fear. would normally save that last method for the same sh1t test repeated ie. nagging.

Now let's be clear that's if you are being a good strong stable man. Drinking until 6 a.m. Will piss off any misses and quite rightly so.

unfortunately I can't find it anymore but somewhere on here they'd posted a Viking skald. basically the woman of the house were making fun of this guy because he was old when he d spent his entire life protecting and feeding them. A woman cares about her situation and her feelings until her last breath. Always keep your hand on your wallet and one foot out the door.

 

[flowtheory]

I understand why you need to sh1t test but it's not anything like keeping frame.

I actually do sh1t testing but only a pretty advanced guy has the wherewithal to do it.

I dated this model at the end of last summer for three months. We’ve had sex. Currently in a relationship with someone else. Out of the blue she messaged me today. I want to be transparent with my girl that this other woman sent this message and said she was thinking of me.
Is that a male form of a sh!t test? Is it a good idea to be honest like this? Or does it just cause bullish!t?
I know she’s probably going to get jealous in some form when I tell her. Maybe I shouldn’t. But she tells me when people reach out to her. And I think those are sh!t tests.. mind you she hasn’t slept with them..

 

[AJ84]

Punching someone is the same as self defense classes?

I understand why you need to sh1t test but it's not anything like keeping frame.

I actually do sh1t testing but only a pretty advanced guy has the wherewithal to do it.

Men post about how to effectively communicate with women to keep frame. Advice is usually to text less, create mystery/ interest, subtly let her know you have options, respond in a stoic way to any negative emotion she expresses etc.

What is the goal with those strategies? To influence her behaviour, thoughts and feelings towards him for his benefit, basically to get her to do what he wants her to do and not get roped into doing what he doesn’t want to do, like be an orbiter or emotional tampon.

When a guy posts about a woman doing those things to him, he’s told she’s sh*t testing him because she wants to get him to do what she wants. She wants commitment, or an emotional tampon, or an orbiter. She doesn’t want to be used for sex etc.

What’s different there? Nothing, they are both the same with the same goal - influencing feelings, thoughts and behaviours to get a desired outcome for their own benefit.

It is what it is. And it’s part of the whole dating thing, for better or worse. And people have to navigate this crap all the time.

But the way frame is described here, to me, seems no different then the way sh*t tests are described. I’m not saying one is worse than the other but I don’t see much of a difference, just a fancier name for one lol.

 

[Ranger]

I don’t believe in sh!t testing a woman. It’s tricks by a man who can’t hold his position in space.
You don’t need psychological warfare. Besides, in the long wrong you’re going to get beat.

A man’s biggest tool is indifference. She knows that everything she does is at her own risk. The curb is not far away and she can end up there quite easily. Masculine men will automatically have this frame. Feminine men will have to contrive and create elaborations. That is a feminine trait. It is an acknowledgement that he is powerless in the face of her “greatness” and sexuality.

This is disgusting. It’s like a guy pretending to be a Marine or a SEAL or high end executive when in fact he is an incompetent baboon. Just go buy some fukking tampons and join girl land.

 

[bob2007]

Low value women, if a girl has her own life she doesn't need **** test.
If she is low value, she needs to **** test you because she needs something from you.

 

[Atom Smasher]

2.75 years and still no sh!t test. I’m wondering if my general handling of the relationship actually prevents them. Could be a combo of that plus the fact that she has great character.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The biggest unicorn I dated did the most ruthless negging and testing imaginable lol. She complained it was impossible to make me jealous.

Unicorn == illusion