escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Not a good 2011 start
- Thread starter escaleraroyal
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
IMHO, do not take it that harsh, it is actually okay, and rather normal to spend theese days with your family 31st/1stescaleraroyal said:
While some people do spend NYE with family, girls in college or post-grad (young adults) are looking to go out instead of stay in. The timing of her call is fishy too - waiting until the last hour? I'm not saying this is 100% a flake, but I feel it is. It falls in line with how a lot of flake situations work. The fact she waited until the last hour is not respectful - you're left out in the cold because it's so close to when the ball drops.European-DJ said:
Solomon
Master Don Juan
escaleraroyal said:
Dude don't trip, I just had a chick Flake on me, well sort of
- 1st she wants to go watch a movie/drink
- Then she wants to do a group date (my mate and her girlfriend)
- Then she wants us to come instead of them
- and Now she says her sister is gonna be there plus another friend
It's to much going on, I need this girl one on one so I can work it, so we re-scheduled for tomorrow but I'm not holding my breath(continues to look for more plates)
p.s. my buddy has some girls coming tonight but if they flake well do what we always do hit the field for glory
:woo:
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I do not know what i am missing out on?Strelok said:
But is it not normal anymore to hang out with family on new years eve, and new year day??
In my Place this is the only REAL Family day, and christmas ofc.
Family means nothing in America. At 18 they kick you out! To be a momma's boy in America is an insult! In most countries EVERY man is proud to be one!European-DJ said:
In the former Soviet Union it is like Christmas. Christmas is the 7th of January and religious in nature. The 31 is like Christmas Eve. Gift exchanging. Very much a family time. Muslims celebrate it as well. You have a tree and everything else. Then Santa brings the kids stuff at night for New Year's morning. What is the point? The point is that if you knew this you would have yourself a beautiful young gf :yes:
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
We are celebrating like that, being a christian greek orthodox is something i am rather proud of. But We shouldn't discuss religion.BigJimbo said:
Did not know it was that extreme, i have my own place, i - atleast- act like a man (dunno if you can actually be a man when you are 18?), but i still go visit my familiy the 7th January for christmas, and 31st. There are a hell lot of parties the 31st, but i guess i will survive, spending time with family is important too - IMO.