escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not a good 2011 start
- Thread starter escaleraroyal
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
IMHO, do not take it that harsh, it is actually okay, and rather normal to spend theese days with your family 31st/1stescaleraroyal said:
While some people do spend NYE with family, girls in college or post-grad (young adults) are looking to go out instead of stay in. The timing of her call is fishy too - waiting until the last hour? I'm not saying this is 100% a flake, but I feel it is. It falls in line with how a lot of flake situations work. The fact she waited until the last hour is not respectful - you're left out in the cold because it's so close to when the ball drops.European-DJ said:
Solomon
Master Don Juan
escaleraroyal said:
Dude don't trip, I just had a chick Flake on me, well sort of
- 1st she wants to go watch a movie/drink
- Then she wants to do a group date (my mate and her girlfriend)
- Then she wants us to come instead of them
- and Now she says her sister is gonna be there plus another friend
It's to much going on, I need this girl one on one so I can work it, so we re-scheduled for tomorrow but I'm not holding my breath(continues to look for more plates)
p.s. my buddy has some girls coming tonight but if they flake well do what we always do hit the field for glory
:woo:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I do not know what i am missing out on?Strelok said:
But is it not normal anymore to hang out with family on new years eve, and new year day??
In my Place this is the only REAL Family day, and christmas ofc.
Family means nothing in America. At 18 they kick you out! To be a momma's boy in America is an insult! In most countries EVERY man is proud to be one!European-DJ said:
In the former Soviet Union it is like Christmas. Christmas is the 7th of January and religious in nature. The 31 is like Christmas Eve. Gift exchanging. Very much a family time. Muslims celebrate it as well. You have a tree and everything else. Then Santa brings the kids stuff at night for New Year's morning. What is the point? The point is that if you knew this you would have yourself a beautiful young gf :yes:
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
We are celebrating like that, being a christian greek orthodox is something i am rather proud of. But We shouldn't discuss religion.BigJimbo said:
Did not know it was that extreme, i have my own place, i - atleast- act like a man (dunno if you can actually be a man when you are 18?), but i still go visit my familiy the 7th January for christmas, and 31st. There are a hell lot of parties the 31st, but i guess i will survive, spending time with family is important too - IMO.