escaleraroyal
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She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Not a good 2011 start
- Thread starter escaleraroyal
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
IMHO, do not take it that harsh, it is actually okay, and rather normal to spend theese days with your family 31st/1stescaleraroyal said:
While some people do spend NYE with family, girls in college or post-grad (young adults) are looking to go out instead of stay in. The timing of her call is fishy too - waiting until the last hour? I'm not saying this is 100% a flake, but I feel it is. It falls in line with how a lot of flake situations work. The fact she waited until the last hour is not respectful - you're left out in the cold because it's so close to when the ball drops.European-DJ said:
Solomon
Master Don Juan
escaleraroyal said:
Dude don't trip, I just had a chick Flake on me, well sort of
- 1st she wants to go watch a movie/drink
- Then she wants to do a group date (my mate and her girlfriend)
- Then she wants us to come instead of them
- and Now she says her sister is gonna be there plus another friend
It's to much going on, I need this girl one on one so I can work it, so we re-scheduled for tomorrow but I'm not holding my breath(continues to look for more plates)
p.s. my buddy has some girls coming tonight but if they flake well do what we always do hit the field for glory
:woo:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I do not know what i am missing out on?Strelok said:
But is it not normal anymore to hang out with family on new years eve, and new year day??
In my Place this is the only REAL Family day, and christmas ofc.
Family means nothing in America. At 18 they kick you out! To be a momma's boy in America is an insult! In most countries EVERY man is proud to be one!European-DJ said:
In the former Soviet Union it is like Christmas. Christmas is the 7th of January and religious in nature. The 31 is like Christmas Eve. Gift exchanging. Very much a family time. Muslims celebrate it as well. You have a tree and everything else. Then Santa brings the kids stuff at night for New Year's morning. What is the point? The point is that if you knew this you would have yourself a beautiful young gf :yes:
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
We are celebrating like that, being a christian greek orthodox is something i am rather proud of. But We shouldn't discuss religion.BigJimbo said:
Did not know it was that extreme, i have my own place, i - atleast- act like a man (dunno if you can actually be a man when you are 18?), but i still go visit my familiy the 7th January for christmas, and 31st. There are a hell lot of parties the 31st, but i guess i will survive, spending time with family is important too - IMO.