escaleraroyal
Master Don Juan
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She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
IMHO, do not take it that harsh, it is actually okay, and rather normal to spend theese days with your family 31st/1stescaleraroyal said:She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
While some people do spend NYE with family, girls in college or post-grad (young adults) are looking to go out instead of stay in. The timing of her call is fishy too - waiting until the last hour? I'm not saying this is 100% a flake, but I feel it is. It falls in line with how a lot of flake situations work. The fact she waited until the last hour is not respectful - you're left out in the cold because it's so close to when the ball drops.European-DJ said:IMHO, do not take it that harsh, it is actually okay, and rather normal to spend theese days with your family 31st/1st
escaleraroyal said:She called at the last hour and flaked on me. She said she wanted to spend the 1st with her family.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I do not know what i am missing out on?Strelok said:Age of the girl? no really if she's not 14 or 15, it's very rare what euro-dj suggested.
Family means nothing in America. At 18 they kick you out! To be a momma's boy in America is an insult! In most countries EVERY man is proud to be one!European-DJ said:I do not know what i am missing out on?
But is it not normal anymore to hang out with family on new years eve, and new year day??
In my Place this is the only REAL Family day, and christmas ofc.
We are celebrating like that, being a christian greek orthodox is something i am rather proud of. But We shouldn't discuss religion.BigJimbo said:Family means nothing in America. At 18 they kick you out! To be a momma's boy in America is an insult! In most countries EVERY man is proud to be one!
In the former Soviet Union it is like Christmas. Christmas is the 7th of January and religious in nature. The 31 is like Christmas Eve. Gift exchanging. Very much a family time. Muslims celebrate it as well. You have a tree and everything else. Then Santa brings the kids stuff at night for New Year's morning. What is the point? The point is that if you knew this you would have yourself a beautiful young gf :yes: