So my wife of 5 years was talking and she says she doesn't feel comfortable in her home and that's reason to break up. I told her most couples break up over financial issues abuse drugs or otherwise etc. Her not feeling comfortable in her home is because I get my 10 year old every summer. I feel she's crazy I need to get out but have no resources in the city I live in what should I do
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Normal reasons people break up
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
EyeBRollin
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It’s over. Reason is irrelevant. She now has low interest level. Dump her immediately.
My best guest why this happened:
1) You gave your wife’s words too much weight in the marriage. Those times your wife told you everything was alright even though she did not act like it…those were the times you were supposed to fix the situation. Instead you only focused on her words and tried to debate the situation.
Your wife is a nice girl and she gave you a nice reason for why she wants out. It is not the real reason.
Never pay attention to a woman’s words, especially your own wife. Only pay attention to a woman’s actions.
When your wife gives you a nice reason, you call her out on it. You let her know you are aware there is a problem and work to resolve it. Her nice reason is unacceptable. Get visibly angry (from her nice reason), if needed, because as a leader, your job is to know the real reason from her. You cannot lead a relationship when nice girl reasons are driving the relationship.
2) You literally said one of the main reasons in your post, resources. She does not have confidence in your resourcefulness.
Fix # 1 & 2 in this marriage or your next relationship and you will do well in life.
Best of luck to you!
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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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This is just an excuse to break up with you. It sounds like she has lost respect and attraction. If you want to have a call about it, let me know
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Hopefully the op does not have kids and he does not have to pay alimony. Good luck, the relationship has run its course.
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Agreed.
Simply tell her that you totally agree and then do not discuss any further. Put yourself in a situation to go meet more women.
The #1 reason people break up- they found someone else they find more sexually attractive.
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I think the reasons are irrelevant. The intention is what matters. If anyone wants out, they don't value your presence enough. Speaks volumes, walk away, and refocus on yourself.
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Reyaj
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I love how everyone knows exactly the reason someone's 5 year relationship didn't work out from the OP posting 3 lines....
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Marriage is the biggest con job. It's the number 1 way to extract resources from men and redistribution to women.
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Most couples break up because she stopped getting the feels and he stopped being the man.
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Don't get out of the house unless she owns it. You will screw yourself over in the divorce. Consult an attorney before you do anything stupid. And yes, most guys do several stupid things that cost them because they don't know how the laws work where they are at.
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One of the big ones is because they don't communicate with each other and allow small things to fester and get to a point where they become big things that then may be too late to fix.
It's like a car...you have to do the routine maintenance like oil changes or else you get to a point where you blow your engine and then you have to replace the engine.
Few people are willing to do that these days.
It's like a car...you have to do the routine maintenance like oil changes or else you get to a point where you blow your engine and then you have to replace the engine.
Few people are willing to do that these days.
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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.