"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Nofap November Challenge (chest beaters stay away thanks)
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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This happened to me last time but it took about a week to kick in. Started waking up at 6.30 for the first time in my life. Weird
resilient
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I started off the morning great as you may have noticed from my post earlier today.
I got home six hours later after work and all I could think about was fap. Fvck.
I nearly caved already just thinking about it.
I then DuckDuckGo searched "benefits of nofap+November". One of the top results that came up was this post "How much do you want this?" by a Reddit guy. His post motivated me to stop my craving, write this comment on SoSuave.
I'm now going to go do some archery practice for the next hour + a hour of high intensity interval training to get my neurotransmitter boosts from exercise. Rock on!
Infern0
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Those times you struggle, when you get past them you always see benefits.
Keep going
Emotionist
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Was out yesterday for 3 Beers... Woke up today, very horny... I am doing meaningful stuff and forgett about that brian-movies.
Remember, Alkohol or Weed makes you fuccckking horny the next morning. I myself will limit this habbits...
I feel energetic, though... I will not give in the urges, benefits are to good.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
NSX-R
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Reread the whole thread
BeTheChange
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No thanks...as far as I can see it's just a placebo or misguided motivation for noobs.
Spanking the monkey has zero impact on my ability to get laid nor my confidence, productivity, etc. In fact it enhances these things because I am less outcome dependent.
Ironically this thread seems to be one big (unnecessary) circle jerk. Each to their own I suppose.
- Yours truly, Chest Beater
mrgoodstuff
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For many of us it doesn't work this way. If were fapping when we are in a drought it will prolong the drought because it rewards failure. It also bleeds put drive and motivation. Sex is different because you are rewarded with physical pleasure, confidence and masculinity through congugating with a female.
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Show us links and evidence for your stance
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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devilkingx2
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i think everyone works differently, whereas one man might need to masturbate to control his thirst, another man might need to avoid masturbating to give him motivation
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Do you guys know how when you know some pregnant woman, all of a sudden you can't stop seeing pregnant women when you are out in the streets? Well, all I see now are butts.
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I agree with you, and I don't do nofap anymore because it's been counterproductive for me as well. But still - it's cool if these guys do it - it's a spirit raising exercise. It's about exerting discipline and willpower to reach a difficult goal.
It may sound funny, but for many guys a month without fapping is something really hard which they've never done before. It's a good experience, I can recommend that everybody do it at least once in their life.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.