"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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NOFAP MONTH OF JULY.

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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From my experience, @stringpuller, relapses will happen. The important measure of progress is that the distance between relapse and maintaining NoFap is that the distance gets further and further with a discipline to where you can control your impulses and channel that energy into better productive activities.
 

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I dont know if i mentioned byt im going to therapy now too i started last week, the therapist says i have pretty bad childhood trauma.

Also day 23
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Good luck, @Infern0. There's no shame with seeing a therapist.

Mine helped me earlier this year overcome deep seated rejection issues in the spring of this year.

I'm not 100% "restored", yet I'm finally getting to the state of zero fvcks given if a plate jumps branches or channels low interest my way. Fvck it.

Finding contentment in my own life, hobbies, social spheres, gym routine, work, and career transition.

day32 :)
 

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well fellas I fvcking jerked off. I went 60 days. And i just felt like doing it tonight. I have no regrets. Fun little journey. I will resume nofap again tomorrow for the month of august.
 

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Day 25 (almost 26)

Feeling a lot of changes, mental clarity is becoming very pronounced.

I have decided, to pursue nothing with women until 90 days, which will also be around 10 therapy sessions for me.

I have realised my motives in the persuit of women are not healthy, and i am not authentic.

This is going to change.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I'm trying to give up hardcore porn once and for all. Have relapsed twice this month. It's gotten to the point where I can't get aroused by porn unless I'm watching abuse/simulated rape clips. It is disgusting. This **** will rot your brain and give you the most demented thoughts. Hopefully, shaming myself on here will finally encourage me to get my act together.
 

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Can you elaborate on this authentic comment? Im interested in hearing about that.
A lot of my old childhood trauma is still there, im trying to get girls to fill a void or to make myself "look better" and as a result the women im drawing in are a similar internal quality to myself.

Im having therapy now to get rid of the trauma stuff which i have only had 2 sessions so far but already has been groundbreaking.

I want to actually have decent relationships with decent women in the future, im tired of ons or flings with daddy issues girls.
 

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I'm trying to give up hardcore porn once and for all. Have relapsed twice this month. It's gotten to the point where I can't get aroused by porn unless I'm watching abuse/simulated rape clips. It is disgusting. This **** will rot your brain and give you the most demented thoughts. Hopefully, shaming myself on here will finally encourage me to get my act together.
I never went down the rape route but extreme stuff and abuse stuff was where i ended up. It's unbelivable the damage that stuff does to you so do your best to get free of it
 

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Allowed my self to relapse yesterday. I'm going to go NoFap again in August. Congrats, @narcissist for making it as for as you did. 60 days ain't easy man.
 
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