"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Nofap Incels have higher rate of prostate cancer
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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Generally, nofap as it's proposed here is generally to try to use the creatitve and masculine energy by semen retention in order to get real women and have real sex. However, for people like me, that doesn't work, so looking at it from primarily a health perspective, nofap is a stupid concept if it's hurting prostate health. From a spiritual standpoint, it could induce feelings of guilt or alienation from fellowship with God, or not being 100% present and in the moment. While we like to pretend only physical things are a concern, if you take the fact this life is not be all and end all for everything we all stand before God to give account for our lives, then health, while it is a priority, it is not the only priority. For example, some people can take great care of themselves and then they could get into an accident or develop some freak rare cancer, etc.... Look at what happened just 4 years ago with covid. People who had relationships and thought they wouldn't die alone, had to actually die alone and nobody could do anything to help. People who were previously healthy and taking great care of their bodies caught this virus and ended up disabled or dead, and that includes the vaccine side-effects. Nobody saw that coming in 2020.
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I was recommended this too by my urologist, but to "unclog" the pipes.
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If I do not masturbate and do not get laid for more than 2 weeks, my well being suffers. I don't feel as good from a mental standpoint. While I won't masturbate if I go more than 2 weeks without sex, I know I'm not in a good spot if I'm not getting laid. Getting laid regularly also helps keep a nofap streak going.