comic_relief
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as per Wyld's request for no hijacking. I will edit this post.
Wyld, very nice post. Keep it up.
comic_relief
Wyld, very nice post. Keep it up.
comic_relief
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
No, you do NOT love her...a comprehensive REALITY check!
- Thread starter Wyldfire
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Actually, a lot of the stuff suggested on this forum doesn't really work so hot with LTRs. They are a different monster entirely from dating or short flings. In a LTR if you make certain that you respect yourself at least as much as your respect your girlfriend, for the most part, you'll be okay.DasaniWater said:LoL! I'm an AFC with my gf. Whenever i try DJ techniques she says ive changed and doesnt like it.. hmm but i know its bad
I was talkin about Wyldfire :|blueangel83 said:Thank you for the COMPLIMENT Shumon, but I can't be INFATUATED with you.
Flippinfreak, you're an idiot. There is nothing wrong with being an AFC. As a matter of fact, those AFC's are the ones who end up in long lasting relationships, compared to the lonely players. Why? because they are not afraid to express their feelings. Players think they're macho, etc... but at the end of the day, they know they're the ones getting played and heart broken.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Panda 2000
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dude back off she is mine :|
flippinfreak
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With each post you quote and respond to the gabage, it only doubles... seriously, think about it... one bad post plus a response to a bad post...
just keep going with the positive flow!!!
blueangel, come on!!! You know there are guys out there that you are dating, that you don't love, why are you dating them, if they say they love you? blah, that's just, like 100% against what you just said... kinda that selfish gene kicking in again. I'm a player? I respect the women I date, I try as hard as I can to leave them feeling better when I leave them than when I met them... sometimes I get mixed up with a girl who gets infatuated though. She thinks she loves me, a year down the line I'm still slapping my forehead because she's still sending me pictures and emails asking me how I'm doing, and how much she misses me, what she thinks of me, nad what body parts of mine she still wants... I feel bad not responding to them each time I do, I feel AFC... ya know, that feeling where you can't tell a girl off because she might hurt herself and say its my fault?
Wyldfire, what you going on about Infatuation will pass? You just said infatuation isn't love. You mean infatuation will disappear? Why? I love the feeling of infatuation, what do I have to look forward to after that? Something stronger than infatuation?
explain to me what love is, because I'm thinking I'm missing something.
Wyldfire
just keep going with the positive flow!!!
blueangel, come on!!! You know there are guys out there that you are dating, that you don't love, why are you dating them, if they say they love you? blah, that's just, like 100% against what you just said... kinda that selfish gene kicking in again. I'm a player? I respect the women I date, I try as hard as I can to leave them feeling better when I leave them than when I met them... sometimes I get mixed up with a girl who gets infatuated though. She thinks she loves me, a year down the line I'm still slapping my forehead because she's still sending me pictures and emails asking me how I'm doing, and how much she misses me, what she thinks of me, nad what body parts of mine she still wants... I feel bad not responding to them
each time I do, I feel AFC... ya know, that feeling where you can't tell a girl off because she might hurt herself and say its my fault?Wyldfire, what you going on about Infatuation will pass? You just said infatuation isn't love. You mean infatuation will disappear? Why? I love the feeling of infatuation, what do I have to look forward to after that? Something stronger than infatuation?
explain to me what love is, because I'm thinking I'm missing something.
Wyldfire
Both of you are going to get your arses slapped and get stood in the corner in a minute.
shumon...read some posts and get on outside and approach some girls. I'm old enough to be your mother and I told you I don't flirt with or date guys from here. You've gotta have some dignity and self respect and stop spamming my PM box. Panda...don't go there...please.
shumon...read some posts and get on outside and approach some girls. I'm old enough to be your mother and I told you I don't flirt with or date guys from here. You've gotta have some dignity and self respect and stop spamming my PM box. Panda...don't go there...please.
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Beware
Recently, a woman who I had been dating for about 2 months made a strange comment to me while we were sitting on the couch cuddling. She said to me "this is just kind of scary for me. It's been a long time since I've really liked someone this much. Actually, I think it's a lot more than that but I'm holding back". Now, I think that any reasonable person would take this to mean that she wanted to tell me that she loved me. I didn't feel that I could justify saying that yet though so I didn't pull out the L word. It did cause me to let my guard down and feel that I loved her too though. Then, the attachment really started. A month later she dumped me. So, beware when the girl says she loves you early on.
Recently, a woman who I had been dating for about 2 months made a strange comment to me while we were sitting on the couch cuddling. She said to me "this is just kind of scary for me. It's been a long time since I've really liked someone this much. Actually, I think it's a lot more than that but I'm holding back". Now, I think that any reasonable person would take this to mean that she wanted to tell me that she loved me. I didn't feel that I could justify saying that yet though so I didn't pull out the L word. It did cause me to let my guard down and feel that I loved her too though. Then, the attachment really started. A month later she dumped me. So, beware when the girl says she loves you early on.
u talk **** :|blueangel83 said:Thank you for the COMPLIMENT Shumon, but I can't be INFATUATED with you.
Flippinfreak, you're an idiot. There is nothing wrong with being an AFC. As a matter of fact, those AFC's are the ones who end up in long lasting relationships, compared to the lonely players. Why? because they are not afraid to express their feelings. Players think they're macho, etc... but at the end of the day, they know they're the ones getting played and heart broken.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Infatuation will usually come and go in a relationship...and you can actually do things to create it even long after you've grown to have a mature love. It all comes down to being able to get the other person to feel good about themselves when they are with you. People lose the feeling of infatuation because they get lazy, basically. Early in a relationship you make more effort to elicit those feelings in each other. If you don't make the effort to keep that alive it will pass. Now, no one can really keep that going consistently all the time...but you can put that effort in enough to not forget how enjoyable it is.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Stop trying to be the board moderator.Wyldfire said:
Even YOU don't agree with blueangel, and something needed to be said before she "hijacks" the minds of these guys that are trying to better themselves.
Don't fukking flatter yourself Wyldfire, nobody's attacking you. My only interest here is helping MEN know the truth so they can live the best lives. Perhaps YOU are the one looking for attention? And the longer this bullchit is posted, the longer I will respond.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.