comic_relief
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as per Wyld's request for no hijacking. I will edit this post.
Wyld, very nice post. Keep it up.
comic_relief
Wyld, very nice post. Keep it up.
comic_relief
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
No, you do NOT love her...a comprehensive REALITY check!
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Actually, a lot of the stuff suggested on this forum doesn't really work so hot with LTRs. They are a different monster entirely from dating or short flings. In a LTR if you make certain that you respect yourself at least as much as your respect your girlfriend, for the most part, you'll be okay.DasaniWater said:LoL! I'm an AFC with my gf. Whenever i try DJ techniques she says ive changed and doesnt like it.. hmm but i know its bad
I was talkin about Wyldfire :|blueangel83 said:Thank you for the COMPLIMENT Shumon, but I can't be INFATUATED with you.
Flippinfreak, you're an idiot. There is nothing wrong with being an AFC. As a matter of fact, those AFC's are the ones who end up in long lasting relationships, compared to the lonely players. Why? because they are not afraid to express their feelings. Players think they're macho, etc... but at the end of the day, they know they're the ones getting played and heart broken.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Panda 2000
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dude back off she is mine :|
flippinfreak
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With each post you quote and respond to the gabage, it only doubles... seriously, think about it... one bad post plus a response to a bad post...
just keep going with the positive flow!!!
blueangel, come on!!! You know there are guys out there that you are dating, that you don't love, why are you dating them, if they say they love you? blah, that's just, like 100% against what you just said... kinda that selfish gene kicking in again. I'm a player? I respect the women I date, I try as hard as I can to leave them feeling better when I leave them than when I met them... sometimes I get mixed up with a girl who gets infatuated though. She thinks she loves me, a year down the line I'm still slapping my forehead because she's still sending me pictures and emails asking me how I'm doing, and how much she misses me, what she thinks of me, nad what body parts of mine she still wants... I feel bad not responding to them each time I do, I feel AFC... ya know, that feeling where you can't tell a girl off because she might hurt herself and say its my fault?
Wyldfire, what you going on about Infatuation will pass? You just said infatuation isn't love. You mean infatuation will disappear? Why? I love the feeling of infatuation, what do I have to look forward to after that? Something stronger than infatuation?
explain to me what love is, because I'm thinking I'm missing something.
Wyldfire
just keep going with the positive flow!!!
blueangel, come on!!! You know there are guys out there that you are dating, that you don't love, why are you dating them, if they say they love you? blah, that's just, like 100% against what you just said... kinda that selfish gene kicking in again. I'm a player? I respect the women I date, I try as hard as I can to leave them feeling better when I leave them than when I met them... sometimes I get mixed up with a girl who gets infatuated though. She thinks she loves me, a year down the line I'm still slapping my forehead because she's still sending me pictures and emails asking me how I'm doing, and how much she misses me, what she thinks of me, nad what body parts of mine she still wants... I feel bad not responding to them
each time I do, I feel AFC... ya know, that feeling where you can't tell a girl off because she might hurt herself and say its my fault?Wyldfire, what you going on about Infatuation will pass? You just said infatuation isn't love. You mean infatuation will disappear? Why? I love the feeling of infatuation, what do I have to look forward to after that? Something stronger than infatuation?
explain to me what love is, because I'm thinking I'm missing something.
Wyldfire
Both of you are going to get your arses slapped and get stood in the corner in a minute.
shumon...read some posts and get on outside and approach some girls. I'm old enough to be your mother and I told you I don't flirt with or date guys from here. You've gotta have some dignity and self respect and stop spamming my PM box. Panda...don't go there...please.
shumon...read some posts and get on outside and approach some girls. I'm old enough to be your mother and I told you I don't flirt with or date guys from here. You've gotta have some dignity and self respect and stop spamming my PM box. Panda...don't go there...please.
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Beware
Recently, a woman who I had been dating for about 2 months made a strange comment to me while we were sitting on the couch cuddling. She said to me "this is just kind of scary for me. It's been a long time since I've really liked someone this much. Actually, I think it's a lot more than that but I'm holding back". Now, I think that any reasonable person would take this to mean that she wanted to tell me that she loved me. I didn't feel that I could justify saying that yet though so I didn't pull out the L word. It did cause me to let my guard down and feel that I loved her too though. Then, the attachment really started. A month later she dumped me. So, beware when the girl says she loves you early on.
Recently, a woman who I had been dating for about 2 months made a strange comment to me while we were sitting on the couch cuddling. She said to me "this is just kind of scary for me. It's been a long time since I've really liked someone this much. Actually, I think it's a lot more than that but I'm holding back". Now, I think that any reasonable person would take this to mean that she wanted to tell me that she loved me. I didn't feel that I could justify saying that yet though so I didn't pull out the L word. It did cause me to let my guard down and feel that I loved her too though. Then, the attachment really started. A month later she dumped me. So, beware when the girl says she loves you early on.
u talk **** :|blueangel83 said:Thank you for the COMPLIMENT Shumon, but I can't be INFATUATED with you.
Flippinfreak, you're an idiot. There is nothing wrong with being an AFC. As a matter of fact, those AFC's are the ones who end up in long lasting relationships, compared to the lonely players. Why? because they are not afraid to express their feelings. Players think they're macho, etc... but at the end of the day, they know they're the ones getting played and heart broken.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Infatuation will usually come and go in a relationship...and you can actually do things to create it even long after you've grown to have a mature love. It all comes down to being able to get the other person to feel good about themselves when they are with you. People lose the feeling of infatuation because they get lazy, basically. Early in a relationship you make more effort to elicit those feelings in each other. If you don't make the effort to keep that alive it will pass. Now, no one can really keep that going consistently all the time...but you can put that effort in enough to not forget how enjoyable it is.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Stop trying to be the board moderator.Wyldfire said:
Even YOU don't agree with blueangel, and something needed to be said before she "hijacks" the minds of these guys that are trying to better themselves.
Don't fukking flatter yourself Wyldfire, nobody's attacking you. My only interest here is helping MEN know the truth so they can live the best lives. Perhaps YOU are the one looking for attention? And the longer this bullchit is posted, the longer I will respond.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.