"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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No sh1t tests from younger girl. Common?

Neon Owl

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After having a 42 yr old gf for 7 months and fvcking a couple other older women I got used to the sh1t tests being thrown at me. Met this 24 yr old girl and slept with her the other night and as far as I'm aware she didn't throw a single one at me the whole night.

Is this common with younger women or is age not a factor when it comes to tests?
 

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She's a unicorn...

Or a virgin cancer patient...

Or a new post-op transexual....

Or she lost a bet...
 

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
She's a unicorn...

Or a virgin cancer patient...

Or a new post-op transexual....

Or she lost a bet...

So....what you're saying is this is a very rare thing?
 

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This one is easy. She had extremely high interest. Chicks with high interest do not play games. They don't want to risk losing you.
 

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She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.
 

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TheException said:
She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.
Absolutely 100% agreed.
 

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You've "got a live one" on your hands. She has extreme high interest from the beginning which is very rare. Doc love says that women in these situations won't sh1t test their men out of fear of losing them.
 

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As scary as it may sound, she may actually 100% dig you, man. Onward and forward, and see where this takes you.

PS: ALWAYS be prepared for a shıt test.
 

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Yeah, she's into you, or an incredibly skilled actor. It's not a free ride though - if you actually like her, keep it together and keep her slightly on her toes.
 

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Ya you might have it easy for the first few weeks, but bring your popcorn for the games later
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I could sense that she was into me very early on into the first date so I guess you guys are right. She was always asking me questions like what I thought about so and so, what my favourite things are etc.

I can tell she wants to keep me around lol don't think she actually wanted me to go the day after. Kept asking me what time the last train is.

Met her on POF and she may actually be a good one though it's still too early to be sure. She moved over here from a different city a few months ago and doesn't know anyone here yet which to me is a very good sign and makes a nice change from my last gf who knew people everywhere we went...mostly guys :/

She's already calling me babe and spent the whole time cuddling up to me while I was at her place resting her head on my leg.

I'll make sure not to get comfortable and let my guard down though like I did in my last relationship after a few months being together. That was when the sh1t tests came into full force so I'll be ready this time!
 

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Scenarios:

1. Very high interest (most optimal scenario)
2. Very needy...probably due to past issues
3. Huge slvt
4. Trying to get back at a recent ex


If it's Option 1: Play it cool. She might have high interest now, but remember...she has high interest for the CURRENT YOU. If you start morphing into some low-tier chump...say bye bye.

Option 2: I would watch out. Be observant on any peculiar actions and behaviors...

Option 3 & 4: Keep as a FWB
 

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TheException said:
She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.

Yep.

This is how my last LTR went. On our first date she laughed at even the dumbest joke I said. I knew I was "in" from date one.

The $hit tests began/took effect 3 months later, right after the "where is this relationship going" talk that she initiated.
 

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She's been texting me every day since I saw her lol not really a fan of the whole texting thing but nothing I can do about that.

Seeing her again this weekend. Looking forward to it and not just for the sex. I might have finally found a girl I like hanging out with.
 

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give it 3months then let us know what she's like. ;-)
 

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Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Howiestern said:
give it 3months then let us know what she's like. ;-)
lol yea I'm well prepared for the sh1tstorm after a few months of complacency. Didn't see it coming last time but now I know what to look out for so hopefully I'll hold my ground when the time comes.
 

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Keep in mind too that by the time you can "sense" that she's losing interest, she's already lost a lot of it. Better to be unpredictable and keep it high before that happens. Be proactive, not reactive.

I remember reading Doc Love -- who has some valid points about this -- saying that men can't really tell the difference between a woman's 100% interest level (DL's arbitrary numbers) and 80% interest level. It's only when it dips down into the 70s that you can tell by her attitude shift (sh*t tests appear). When it drops below 50% then the time is running on the relationship and you'll likely never get it back up. When it drops below 40% then you're going down fast, she starts acting like a right b*tch, and it's time to see her off or she'll do it in a very unpleasant way.
 

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Neon Owl said:
After having a 42 yr old gf for 7 months and fvcking a couple other older women I got used to the sh1t tests being thrown at me. Met this 24 yr old girl and slept with her the other night and as far as I'm aware she didn't throw a single one at me the whole night.

Is this common with younger women or is age not a factor when it comes to tests?

Happened to me about a month and a half ago, no **** tests thrown. Just pure interest. Shes my LTR now. Go for it, but be wary, no **** tests can be a sign of desperation
 

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How do you tell the difference between desperation and high interest?

Spoke to her today and got her to agree to make me dinner when i go round in a couple days. She seems like a good one so far.


And on another more fvcked up note, my ex txt me tonight after 8 weeks NC....trying to resist the urge to see her again. I've only just started to get her out of my mind. I didn't reply to the txt.
 

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Neon Owl said:
How do you tell the difference between desperation and high interest?

Spoke to her today and got her to agree to make me dinner when i go round in a couple days. She seems like a good one so far.


And on another more fvcked up note, my ex txt me tonight after 8 weeks NC....trying to resist the urge to see her again. I've only just started to get her out of my mind. I didn't reply to the txt.
Normally when theyre desperate theyll be on your ass non-stop, texting calling etc. Youd be able to tell if they were desperate because youd get annoyed of them extremely fast. Im sure you would have picked up on it by now so dont worry about it
 

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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

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