Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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No sh1t tests from younger girl. Common?

Neon Owl

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After having a 42 yr old gf for 7 months and fvcking a couple other older women I got used to the sh1t tests being thrown at me. Met this 24 yr old girl and slept with her the other night and as far as I'm aware she didn't throw a single one at me the whole night.

Is this common with younger women or is age not a factor when it comes to tests?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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HalfPUAHalfAFC

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She's a unicorn...

Or a virgin cancer patient...

Or a new post-op transexual....

Or she lost a bet...
 

Neon Owl

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HalfPUAHalfAFC said:
She's a unicorn...

Or a virgin cancer patient...

Or a new post-op transexual....

Or she lost a bet...

So....what you're saying is this is a very rare thing?
 

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This one is easy. She had extremely high interest. Chicks with high interest do not play games. They don't want to risk losing you.
 

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She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TheException said:
She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.
Absolutely 100% agreed.
 

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You've "got a live one" on your hands. She has extreme high interest from the beginning which is very rare. Doc love says that women in these situations won't sh1t test their men out of fear of losing them.
 

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As scary as it may sound, she may actually 100% dig you, man. Onward and forward, and see where this takes you.

PS: ALWAYS be prepared for a shıt test.
 

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Yeah, she's into you, or an incredibly skilled actor. It's not a free ride though - if you actually like her, keep it together and keep her slightly on her toes.
 

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Ya you might have it easy for the first few weeks, but bring your popcorn for the games later
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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I could sense that she was into me very early on into the first date so I guess you guys are right. She was always asking me questions like what I thought about so and so, what my favourite things are etc.

I can tell she wants to keep me around lol don't think she actually wanted me to go the day after. Kept asking me what time the last train is.

Met her on POF and she may actually be a good one though it's still too early to be sure. She moved over here from a different city a few months ago and doesn't know anyone here yet which to me is a very good sign and makes a nice change from my last gf who knew people everywhere we went...mostly guys :/

She's already calling me babe and spent the whole time cuddling up to me while I was at her place resting her head on my leg.

I'll make sure not to get comfortable and let my guard down though like I did in my last relationship after a few months being together. That was when the sh1t tests came into full force so I'll be ready this time!
 

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Scenarios:

1. Very high interest (most optimal scenario)
2. Very needy...probably due to past issues
3. Huge slvt
4. Trying to get back at a recent ex


If it's Option 1: Play it cool. She might have high interest now, but remember...she has high interest for the CURRENT YOU. If you start morphing into some low-tier chump...say bye bye.

Option 2: I would watch out. Be observant on any peculiar actions and behaviors...

Option 3 & 4: Keep as a FWB
 

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TheException said:
She had extremely high interest.

This^

Chicks with high interest do not play games.

Now id say at first....they wont or they will rarely. But remember its just natural for them to sh1t test. I believe eventually she will and you have to be ready for them. Short, humor, avoidance....almost always the answer to sh1t tests. If you keep seeing her....they will come eventually.

Yep.

This is how my last LTR went. On our first date she laughed at even the dumbest joke I said. I knew I was "in" from date one.

The $hit tests began/took effect 3 months later, right after the "where is this relationship going" talk that she initiated.
 

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She's been texting me every day since I saw her lol not really a fan of the whole texting thing but nothing I can do about that.

Seeing her again this weekend. Looking forward to it and not just for the sex. I might have finally found a girl I like hanging out with.
 

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give it 3months then let us know what she's like. ;-)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Howiestern said:
give it 3months then let us know what she's like. ;-)
lol yea I'm well prepared for the sh1tstorm after a few months of complacency. Didn't see it coming last time but now I know what to look out for so hopefully I'll hold my ground when the time comes.
 

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Keep in mind too that by the time you can "sense" that she's losing interest, she's already lost a lot of it. Better to be unpredictable and keep it high before that happens. Be proactive, not reactive.

I remember reading Doc Love -- who has some valid points about this -- saying that men can't really tell the difference between a woman's 100% interest level (DL's arbitrary numbers) and 80% interest level. It's only when it dips down into the 70s that you can tell by her attitude shift (sh*t tests appear). When it drops below 50% then the time is running on the relationship and you'll likely never get it back up. When it drops below 40% then you're going down fast, she starts acting like a right b*tch, and it's time to see her off or she'll do it in a very unpleasant way.
 

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Neon Owl said:
After having a 42 yr old gf for 7 months and fvcking a couple other older women I got used to the sh1t tests being thrown at me. Met this 24 yr old girl and slept with her the other night and as far as I'm aware she didn't throw a single one at me the whole night.

Is this common with younger women or is age not a factor when it comes to tests?

Happened to me about a month and a half ago, no **** tests thrown. Just pure interest. Shes my LTR now. Go for it, but be wary, no **** tests can be a sign of desperation
 

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How do you tell the difference between desperation and high interest?

Spoke to her today and got her to agree to make me dinner when i go round in a couple days. She seems like a good one so far.


And on another more fvcked up note, my ex txt me tonight after 8 weeks NC....trying to resist the urge to see her again. I've only just started to get her out of my mind. I didn't reply to the txt.
 

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Neon Owl said:
How do you tell the difference between desperation and high interest?

Spoke to her today and got her to agree to make me dinner when i go round in a couple days. She seems like a good one so far.


And on another more fvcked up note, my ex txt me tonight after 8 weeks NC....trying to resist the urge to see her again. I've only just started to get her out of my mind. I didn't reply to the txt.
Normally when theyre desperate theyll be on your ass non-stop, texting calling etc. Youd be able to tell if they were desperate because youd get annoyed of them extremely fast. Im sure you would have picked up on it by now so dont worry about it
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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