no sex just cuddling?

[sosousage]

I am currently not talking to any other female right now.

U better do. U need 5 sex plates at least

 

[Ryan Adams]

dude that sh!t is so much easier said then done. I don't know one guy friend of mine whose talking to anymore then 2 girls and that's stretching it. I have alot of friends who are all successful decent looking guys to not like a bunch of misfits.

 

[Roober]

If you not getting sex, you are fvcking up. I have had one girl turn me down on date 2, but date 3 she offered to go back to her place for a night cap...

You aren't coming across as sexual and making her pvssy tingle... figure out why!

 

[Ryan Adams]

wish it was thst easy

 

[marmel75]

I'm not sure what she is thinking but its not good for you.

 

[Ryan Adams]

hell no it's not good i wanna get laid dammit. plus I actually dig this chick.

ok so I said "me and you are hanging out this Friday". she said Its girls night Friday but sat we can hang out. i kinda wanna it to be like **** or get off the pot. if she does like me awesome let's pursue this further if she's iffy then absolute next. I know you should never reveal your feelings this early but how should I go about this. ask her where this is going? kinda lost here.

 

[Ryan Adams]

that's actually a good idea but idk if she's gonna be down to get a hotel room hahah

 

[Ryan Adams]

I mean shea down to hang out one on one that's a good sign. it's like she's afraid of liking me. drunk it allllllll comes out.

 

[Glassguy]

I mean shea down to hang out one on one that's a good sign. it's like she's afraid of liking me. drunk it allllllll comes out.

She doesnt like you. Hence the hard NO when you tried to escalate.

She is a tease/attention wh0re. Not sure why you dont see this in her.

 

[Ryan Adams]

She doesnt like you. Hence the hard NO when you tried to escalate.

She is a tease/attention wh0re. Not sure why you dont see this in her.

it wasnt a hard no.... I just didn't want keep pushing. if we were in a private place I guarantee she wou kd of done more

 

[RichardTheFrog]

U better do. U need 5 sex plates at least

You don't even have that, so how can you tell someone else they should have it.

 

[devilkingx2]

Dudes in here constantly pi$$ and moan about not being able to find a decent chic and then turn around a dump a decent chic just because she isn't putting out at the drop of a dime.

Generally it's not a good idea to keep putting more into something with no return, being too overzealous to next is an overcorrection to avoid the sunk cost fallacy (oneitis)

But It's generally better than getting jerked around by a girl who gives it up to everyone except you

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Generally it's not a good idea to keep putting more into something with no return, being too overzealous to next is an overcorrection to avoid the sunk cost fallacy (oneitis)

But It's generally better than getting jerked around by a girl who gives it up to everyone except you

That's terrible

 

[Macaframalama]

Generally it's not a good idea to keep putting more into something with no return, being too overzealous to next is an overcorrection to avoid the sunk cost fallacy (oneitis)

Generally not, I agree. That's why I told him not to put all of his eggs in one basket.

But It's generally better than getting jerked around by a girl who gives it up to everyone except you

Yea, there's really no way to know this. They've been on two dates. The first one and the second, where they were in a house full of ppl she didn't know. I've experienced my fair share of smashing in less than ideal locations/situations, but it's not my first choice and blackout levels of alcohol had usually been consumed by all parties. Comfort has to be there, before sexual tension can be built. A house full of strangers isn't exactly the optimal scenario to build comfort and escalate, nor within the first couple of hours of meeting her on a first date, unless she's a slvt of course.

 

[devilkingx2]

Yea, there's really no way to know this. They've been on two dates. The first one and the second, where they were in a house full of ppl she didn't know. I've experienced my fair share of smashing in less than ideal locations/situations, but it's not my first choice and blackout levels of alcohol had usually been consumed by all parties. Comfort has to be there, before sexual tension can be built. A house full of strangers isn't exactly the optimal scenario to build comfort and escalate, nor within the first couple of hours of meeting her on a first date, unless she's a slvt of course.

This is a good point, my general rule is no more than 5 dates or so, that's plenty of time unless her interest is lukewarm at best

It's too early to be suspicious of her just yet, but OP should keep in mind an exit strategy and to save money if he's still getting nothing by date 3

 

[sosousage]

You don't even have that, so how can you tell someone else they should have it.

lmao because i would be fine with 5, and judging by how asexual some girls are, you might need more of them to have sex when u want

 

[highSpeed]

ok took this girl out went great she was holding my hand clingin all over me. we stayed the night at my buddies house and we slept in the same bed. but weird thing is all she wanted to do was cuddle? like I was pushing the envelope with sex but no she just wanted to hold me tight all night. we made out for about 5 sec and that's all I got. I've never experienced this before everytime I'm in bed with a woman it leads to sex. I'm starting to get the feeling she's either a virgin or just very sheltered.

Better question is, why would you want to put up with it? Why would you even want to put in the time to figure it out? What's your payout? Get a woman who should want to put out to put out? Too much work, move on to the next one. Even if you do figure it out, is it worth it? I mean, most likely, it would center around you having to do something differently than you normally would do to get her to put out. For instance, if she wanted you to give up doing x or start doing y (like cuddling more than you normally would), would you do it? I mean, there's got to be women out there for you that would jump at the chance to hop in the sack with you, so it seems as if your energy would be better spent finding those women and getting them into bed. Then, you can focus on getting them to do sh*t with you that you wouldn't do to a farm animal. Energy better spent my friend, energy better spent.

 

[logicallefty]

I fell for this "let's cuddle no sex" trick back in my beta days. Looking back now I think it was a combo of sh|t test and anti slut defense. My thoughts now: "Sleep together and cuddle but no sex? Gimme a fvcking break!! If I wanted to go to a cuddle party I mean sh|t I could cuddle with more than one chick there at the same time that would make my balls more blue then you can alone tonight so why would I wanna lay in your bed with you and just cuddle? Silly rabbit!! "

 

[derby1]

no matter how long @Ryan Adams has been around or posted, he seems to keep pulling off the same stunts, ending up cuddling, come on my man!!!!!!!!!!!!

it has nothing to do with her and everything to do with OP, its 2018 nearly every woman I know puts out on the first date even if they didnt usually you LEAD them to they Love it !!!

I was with a chick On saturday night, shes no attention *****, she doesnt let odd blokes crawl over her fb, I had a drink with her and escalated I took HER PANTS OFF, I Led her hand to my Crotch.........LEAD LEAD LEAD BRo

 

[Ryan Adams]

man I tried leading.like short of forcing her hahahah. im taking her out this week hopefully we can escalate. this is officially the 1st date one on one. I know she likes me not even worried about that. she's just doesn't wanna feel like a slut.