no sex just cuddling?

[Ryan Adams]

ok took this girl out went great she was holding my hand clingin all over me. we stayed the night at my buddies house and we slept in the same bed. but weird thing is all she wanted to do was cuddle? like I was pushing the envelope with sex but no she just wanted to hold me tight all night. we made out for about 5 sec and that's all I got. I've never experienced this before everytime I'm in bed with a woman it leads to sex. I'm starting to get the feeling she's either a virgin or just very sheltered.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

You still got to sleep together, just take her out on another date and maybe she'll be up for it. Nothing wrong with her not wanting to f*** on the first date.

 

[Ryan Adams]

technically 2nd time we slept in the same bed. both were only light kissing and cuddling. I mean we're in our late 20's it's just odd. maybe she has more values then most of the woman ive. been with? lol

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

2nd time is a bit weird. I'd make sure you're not becoming that fun "cuddle friend" she's seeing while simultaneously banging other guys.

Have you tried vocally telling her that you like her next time you're cuddling? Say something like "You're really hot." Something overtly sexual. If she rejects you after that, you should leave the bed and go home.

If you keep making yourself available and you don't clarify the nature of your relationship you will just get turned into an orbiter.

 

[sosousage]

i had same thing. one girl was clearly asexual and weirdo. i ignored her afterwards, she still texted me, not sure for what, she wanted a boyfrend without secks.


now i had same situation but with very sexy and sexual girl. it pissed me off but i didnt let it see. i think she just didnt want to seem easy or maybe i wasnt enough HQ for her. stil didnt score her lol and we are texting/dating for 2 months or more lol.


but im hoping to score her soon haha if not then.. well.. there are more girls

 

[Ryan Adams]

well make out then she'll stop herself. it's just very weird maybe she doesn't wanna seem easy? if it happens one more time next.

 

[lizardking82]

So when she stops, as the adult in the room, you try to talk it with her. Ask her "Hey honey, what's wrong?" And wait for the answer. Some **** you cannot teach to anyone unless they learn it on their own, but it is astounding how some guys here are so feminized they accept to cuddle with a girl all night and still stay there LOL

 

[dude99]

well make out then she'll stop herself. it's just very weird maybe she doesn't wanna seem easy? if it happens one more time next.

Go date another woman. When she wants to see you again make it clear you are busy with another girl. If her competiton gene kicks in she will chase you. If it doesnt then you know all she wants from you is to be cuddle buddies.

 

[Ryan Adams]

me and her hit it off so extremely well it's just weird. like I said when we go out she is literally holding on to me and holding my hand. but in bed well kiss and she just won't let me push further like I tried and she'll giggle and pull my hand back. but she'll do it for 10 minutes eventually I'm just like whatever and fall asleep

 

[Ryan Adams]

buttt then again we were at a strangers house to her. where she knew absolutly noone there. shea a shy girl so it took alot for her to even go. maybe that has something to do with it.

 

[Macaframalama]

buttt then again we were at a strangers house to her. where she knew absolutly noone there. shea a shy girl so it took alot for her to even go. maybe that has something to do with it.

Possibly this. Not every chic is going to be comfortable with getting the business in a house full of strangers. Not to mention, some of the younger ones are just shy like that. I would play it out a little longer. Dudes in here constantly pi$$ and moan about not being able to find a decent chic and then turn around a dump a decent chic just because she isn't putting out at the drop of a dime. Take your time getting her worked up. Stay AROUND her tittz, a$$, inner thigh, neck, ears and stay away from immediately groping her junk. Hold her hand for a little bit, while making out and guide her to your cawk.

 

[Ryan Adams]

she's definitely a little shy and unsure of herself. I think she feels super comfortable around me and "safe" when she clings to me. she is a very conservative person shes very sweet and nice to people. but I can definitely tell she wouldn't just hold anyones hand like she did mine .shes not like that at all. I'm just not used to girls being as guarded as her. her texting game is weak though like well text but she replies like 5 hours later EVERY time. but in person once she has a few drinks I'm her Lord and savior. hahaha

 

[Macaframalama]

she's definitely a little shy and unsure of herself. I think she feels super comfortable around me and "safe" when she clings to me. she is a very conservative person shes very sweet and nice to people. but I can definitely tell she wouldn't just hold anyones hand. shes not like that at all. I'm just not used to girls being as guarded as her.

Just lead. As long as she's investing you are good.

 

[Ryan Adams]

oh I definitly lead. it kinda is very organic when we hang out. it's like she knows shes the woman and I'm the man and acts accordingly.

 

[Macaframalama]

oh I definitly lead. it kinda is very organic when we hang out. it's like she knows shes the woman and I'm the man and acts accordingly.

She's submissive. That is good in this day and age. How are her parents? Is she going to school? Job/career? Does she drink or do any drugs? What I am saying is, what do her actions outside of your relationship tell you?.?.? Are they congruent with her actions, within the relationship? That will give you an idea of her intent with you.

 

[Ryan Adams]

shea very submissive and I love that. pretty sure her parents are divorced kind of have a feeling she comes from a sort of dysfunctional family from pictures of her mom sister etc. she doesn't really bring up her family. she has a good career makes decent money. she does no drugs and yes she drinks. what do you mean about are her actions congruent?

 

[Macaframalama]

what do you mean about are her actions congruent?

Like, if she's out partying every other night and then turning around and acting like the perfect, little angel with you. Not necessarily incongruent, but little things like that could add up to big red flags.

 

[Ryan Adams]

she drinks on weekends she doesnt get blackout drunk but she definitly drinks a decent amount her and her friend go out a decent amount but not on weekdays usually. she doesn't act like an angel around me but just very submissive. im confused because in person she shows all the signs of liking me but sometimes she doesn't respond to my texts. and when she does it takes hours.

her text game shows very little interest but in person it's through the roof.

 

[Macaframalama]

she drinks on weekends she doesnt get blackout drunk but she definitly drinks a decent amount her and her friend go out a decent amount but not on weekdays usually. she doesn't act like an angel around me but just very submissive. im confused because in person she shows all the signs of liking me but sometimes she doesn't respond to my texts. and when she does it takes hours.

her text game shows very little interest but in person it's through the roof.

You are dating other women right? I wouldn't trip over her not responding right away. Ppl have chit to do. Don't put all your eggs in one basket regardless.

 

[Ryan Adams]

I am currently not talking to any other female right now.