"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I've been doing a pretty good job weeding out the uninterested types, so I think I know where this is headed....

But I texted a girl telling her to let me know which days she's free in the coming days so that we can get a drink. She said "yes let's get a drink!" but didn't give me a day she's free.

Two days later, it's been crickets on both ends. She's high-valued woman who I'm sure gets lots of male attention. It's a fine line between looking needy and pursuing.

Do I wait a week to hit her up..."so how about that drink?" Or is there no harm in hitting her up now and setting something up?

I'm leaning towards the former. Don't want to be too pushy or over-eager with a high-valued woman like this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I don't ever text a girl to ask her when she's free for drinks.

I'd text her and would ask her to join me for drinks. If she refuses for that night but does make a counter, then I know she's interested. If she refuses and makes no counter then I'd know she's not interested.

In either case, I lose nothing and still profit.
 
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Spaz said:
I don't ever text a girl to ask her when she's free for drinks.

I'd text her and would ask her to join me for drinks. If she refuses for that night but does make a counter, then I know she's interested. If she refuses and makes no counter then I'd know she's not interested.

In either case, I lose nothing and still profit.
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Alright, so what's done is done at this point. Think it's worth texting her now and asking her to join me for drinks tonight? Or is that looking needy at this point.
 
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Just text her and invite her out. Nothing needy abt inviting women out.

Make it simple and brief.
 
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Why not skip all the formalities, and just ask her to bed?

That's what you want, right? I've had women 'straight up' ask me to bed, so it's not as 'far fetched' as it may seem.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Yeah. I didn’t follow up with a chick who was supposed to meet me for lunch today cause she told me that she’d text her address so I could pick her up but never did. I’m not gonna “pursue” that cause I know that if she was interested she would have texted her address.
 
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wifehunter said:
Why not skip all the formalities, and just ask her to bed?

That's what you want, right? I've had women 'straight up' ask me to bed, so it's not as 'far fetched' as it may seem.
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Are you being for real or just sarcastic?
 
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skinnyguy said:
Yeah. I didn’t follow up with a chick who was supposed to meet me for lunch today cause she told me that she’d text her address so I could pick her up but never did. I’m not gonna “pursue” that cause I know that if she was interested she would have texted her address.
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So you're saying just leave it as is?
 
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teddy said:
So you're saying just leave it as is?
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Give her some time to think about it. Wait a week, you’re a busy man.
If she shows similiar disinterest at that time, forget her.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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