"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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no personality, but should I date her?

Lingham

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This may be a stupid question, but this girl I know has very little personality it seems. She isn't stupid but she doesn't seem to have many opinions or anything. And she's quiet. But I know she is horny and I want to date her because i'm attracted.

Should I ask her anyways? I'm afraid it might be an ackward date since she has no opinions and doesn't talk much.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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don't waste your time dating her, no personality=waste of your time

if you can screw her without dating then do it up.
 

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ya dude, Id just keep her as a fvck buddy. I can't stand to go on dates with girls that have no personality
 

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Same sity, same problem. I have 2 of those types sucking on my thing...

To lower the ASD, I'd recommend going out with her once or twice and then isolating and fukking.
 

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Thats why you got to put on your pimp/player brain and dig into her life story. She is shy. Ok. Put your mind to the task and get her to open up.

Remember still waters run deep. That means people who are shy are alot deeper than you think...they have alot going on beneath the surface...you just got to mine for the gold.

Turn this one and you will have a strong cop (catch) who will follow you anywhere.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lingham

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Alright. Well I don't think theres' much beneath the surface but I could be wrong. I will hit on her heavy for a few days and If I don't get enough response I'll next her. I'm not gonna ask her on a date though I don't think.
 

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Originally posted by PlayerSupreme
Thats why you got to put on your pimp/player brain and dig into her life story. She is shy. Ok. Put your mind to the task and get her to open up.
And when she opens up, a HUGE PILE OF CRAP falls out right onto your ears. Personal experiences only.
 

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PlayerSupreme is correct. My wife was like this and this describes her well. I would
add though, that sometimes what you find below the surface are problems - psychological problems.
 

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i am in the same situation

id go for the glory hole SOON (2nd date) and if she says no id be like "wuteva bu" and drop her off at a schlokazty's or some sh1t

it all depends on how hot she is (and she better be really dam hot or i will beat ur ace cause this aint funny)
 

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Question you might want to ask is this: Is she this way around everyone? BTW, where did you meet this girl. What kind of girl is she? Is she the brainy, intellectual type? Many of these such girls may be smart but unlike such guys (who tend to be often arrogant and annoying) these girls tend to be quiet and reserved except possibly within their own circles or cliques.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Originally posted by Lingham
I know she is horny and I want to date her because i'm attracted.
That's the answer to your question. You're attracted, she's attracted => date.
 

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Re: Re: no personality, but should I date her?

Originally posted by ChesterB
That's the answer to your question. You're attracted, she's attracted => date.
Totally agree with you. You guys seem to be confusing a date for a LTR, you don't need "the right one" for a date.
 
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