I walk around my school halls like I own the place, with a slight grin on my face. There are like no people who give eye contact anymore in this world, and while they're not Don Juans, this poses a problem for me when I try eye contact - smile -approach. Also, is my value auto-lowered when I go for older girls, since I'm a freshman?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No one brave enough to give eye contact?
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Why would your value be lowered for going after older girls? Your perceived value may go down a bit, but your actual value stays the same. I'm the same way but I treat everyone like they're beneath me - just comes easy to me (since I'm kind of an ass). Older or not, treat all women like a little sister. Don't take them serious. They'll give you crap for it (sh!t test) but don't break frame.
And there are plenty of people who make eye contact.
And there are plenty of people who make eye contact.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
Lack of eye contact is a sign of submission, low self-esteem. On the other hand If they look passed you or not at you when you are looking at them, it can mean just that.
Only say "Hey" to girls who hold your gaze and smiles back. Those are the interested ones.
You're not a pickup artist, you're a Don Juan and we dont "go for girls" at first, we interact with them.
Only say "Hey" to girls who hold your gaze and smiles back. Those are the interested ones.
You're not a pickup artist, you're a Don Juan and we dont "go for girls" at first, we interact with them.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
^This. There's like literally a million reasons why people won't give you eye contact. The majority falling under the general reason that people are just doing their own thing and not actively trying to make eye contact with people so they just don't. For others, they may be insecure. Either way, does it really matter?Mindgamez said:
Yes, your value is auto-lowered by approaching girls who are older than you in hs.
Of course, EPH is correct. Your inherent value as a human being is obviously not lowered, but in regard to your social value at high school your value is lower than a Senior's if you are a Freshman. Maybe a better reason to explain it is that you have lower status (generally) if you're younger in hs. That's just how it is. Highschool is an environment like no other that is built completely off of status. And those who are younger have lower status.Eph said:
Couldn't have said it better myself. If you're below them in grade or age, you're seen as lower status. Just the way it is. There's no changing that mindset, but if you work your butt off you can be seen as "high status for your grade/age".AlexLefty said:
True dat. Yet, you must remember that when you're working your butt off it will be detrimental to you if people THINK you're working your butt off. You must appear to have no agenda, and must appear to simply be living your life. It must appear that you're just naturally good at life, and naturally popular.Eph said:
Of course, it is a million times better to ACTUALLY have no agenda etc - as opposed to appearing to have no agenda - but for all intents and purposes simply appearing to have no agenda would work.