I walk around my school halls like I own the place, with a slight grin on my face. There are like no people who give eye contact anymore in this world, and while they're not Don Juans, this poses a problem for me when I try eye contact - smile -approach. Also, is my value auto-lowered when I go for older girls, since I'm a freshman?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
No one brave enough to give eye contact?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why would your value be lowered for going after older girls? Your perceived value may go down a bit, but your actual value stays the same. I'm the same way but I treat everyone like they're beneath me - just comes easy to me (since I'm kind of an ass). Older or not, treat all women like a little sister. Don't take them serious. They'll give you crap for it (sh!t test) but don't break frame.
And there are plenty of people who make eye contact.
And there are plenty of people who make eye contact.
Skyline
Master Don Juan
Lack of eye contact is a sign of submission, low self-esteem. On the other hand If they look passed you or not at you when you are looking at them, it can mean just that.
Only say "Hey" to girls who hold your gaze and smiles back. Those are the interested ones.
You're not a pickup artist, you're a Don Juan and we dont "go for girls" at first, we interact with them.
Only say "Hey" to girls who hold your gaze and smiles back. Those are the interested ones.
You're not a pickup artist, you're a Don Juan and we dont "go for girls" at first, we interact with them.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
^This. There's like literally a million reasons why people won't give you eye contact. The majority falling under the general reason that people are just doing their own thing and not actively trying to make eye contact with people so they just don't. For others, they may be insecure. Either way, does it really matter?Mindgamez said:
Yes, your value is auto-lowered by approaching girls who are older than you in hs.
Of course, EPH is correct. Your inherent value as a human being is obviously not lowered, but in regard to your social value at high school your value is lower than a Senior's if you are a Freshman. Maybe a better reason to explain it is that you have lower status (generally) if you're younger in hs. That's just how it is. Highschool is an environment like no other that is built completely off of status. And those who are younger have lower status.Eph said:
Couldn't have said it better myself. If you're below them in grade or age, you're seen as lower status. Just the way it is. There's no changing that mindset, but if you work your butt off you can be seen as "high status for your grade/age".AlexLefty said:
True dat. Yet, you must remember that when you're working your butt off it will be detrimental to you if people THINK you're working your butt off. You must appear to have no agenda, and must appear to simply be living your life. It must appear that you're just naturally good at life, and naturally popular.Eph said:
Of course, it is a million times better to ACTUALLY have no agenda etc - as opposed to appearing to have no agenda - but for all intents and purposes simply appearing to have no agenda would work.