"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No more Mr. Nice Guy

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I have decided to change from a miserable AFC to something better. I gotta say, I didn't think I would ever change my attitude towards women. I've been taught to love and respect women ever since I was a kid, part of my culture. Due to some recent events, like my friend deceiving me and sleeping with the girl I've been working on for a while, I have decided to change. Come to think, I always ended up with the bad case of oneitis.

I am on my way to enlightenment, I've picked The Mystery Method and The Game, I think it's a good start. I've also been lurking on the site and forum for a while and my eyes have been opened.

I gotta thank you guys for being here and helping AFC's like me.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BEFORE YOU PROCEED, HEED MY WARNING:

Never change WHO you are ... or else, you'll lose yourself. Lose yourself, and you lose BIG!!!


Wishing you International Success with Women
 

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Changing WHO I am was never my plan, I just want to change HOW I deal with women.
 

mtlwlu

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Good luck, we've all been there before and many of us have done a complete 180.
 

DarkShade

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I think what John was getting at was to not become something you aren't. Your personal comfort with yourself is a paramount concern, because you have to deal with yourself 24/7 for the rest of your life, being a fake or a fraud entails more misery than being alone.

That being said, you need to feel better about yourself before you go out there. Don't think a woman will just change you for the better, they will change you to suit their tastes. Positive personal philosophy like what you read here is a good start but your starting line is one of self-improvement.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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SharinganUser said:
What do you mean your friend decieved you by sleeping with the girl you have been working on?
Here is what happened:

I was at this party and met this one girl. After talking to her for a while we found a few things in common and things were going well. I escalated a little kino, but I think I failed because I didn't know what I was doing. Long story short, by some magic I do end up with a number close. So I wait a couple days to call her. This week was busy so I scheduled a date for the next week. On the weekend tho, I had other plans and didn't want to see her so I wouldn't ruin our date on Tuesday. This is where I failed, she txted me and asked what I was doing, this was around 11 on Friday night. I ignored the txt. Next day I found out my friend which had the proximity advantage had fvcked her. I failed, it was my fault, should have moved in sooner.
 

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Read the DJ bible. MM is just poisonous to someone who doesn't have the mindset and frame of a DJ.
 

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Uke said:
Here is what happened:

I was at this party and met this one girl. After talking to her for a while we found a few things in common and things were going well. I escalated a little kino, but I think I failed because I didn't know what I was doing. Long story short, by some magic I do end up with a number close. So I wait a couple days to call her. This week was busy so I scheduled a date for the next week. On the weekend tho, I had other plans and didn't want to see her so I wouldn't ruin our date on Tuesday. This is where I failed, she txted me and asked what I was doing, this was around 11 on Friday night. I ignored the txt. Next day I found out my friend which had the proximity advantage had fvcked her. I failed, it was my fault, should have moved in sooner.
Dude, there is basically three ways to look at that situation. Your way, which I'd say isn't benefiting you at all. Or that it's not your fault because she is either a) single and on the market, or B) a *****, niether of which are your fault.

Personally i would say you dodged a bullet.
 
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