"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I have decided to change from a miserable AFC to something better. I gotta say, I didn't think I would ever change my attitude towards women. I've been taught to love and respect women ever since I was a kid, part of my culture. Due to some recent events, like my friend deceiving me and sleeping with the girl I've been working on for a while, I have decided to change. Come to think, I always ended up with the bad case of oneitis.

I am on my way to enlightenment, I've picked The Mystery Method and The Game, I think it's a good start. I've also been lurking on the site and forum for a while and my eyes have been opened.

I gotta thank you guys for being here and helping AFC's like me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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BEFORE YOU PROCEED, HEED MY WARNING:

Never change WHO you are ... or else, you'll lose yourself. Lose yourself, and you lose BIG!!!


Wishing you International Success with Women
 

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Changing WHO I am was never my plan, I just want to change HOW I deal with women.
 

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Good luck, we've all been there before and many of us have done a complete 180.
 

DarkShade

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I think what John was getting at was to not become something you aren't. Your personal comfort with yourself is a paramount concern, because you have to deal with yourself 24/7 for the rest of your life, being a fake or a fraud entails more misery than being alone.

That being said, you need to feel better about yourself before you go out there. Don't think a woman will just change you for the better, they will change you to suit their tastes. Positive personal philosophy like what you read here is a good start but your starting line is one of self-improvement.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SharinganUser said:
What do you mean your friend decieved you by sleeping with the girl you have been working on?
Here is what happened:

I was at this party and met this one girl. After talking to her for a while we found a few things in common and things were going well. I escalated a little kino, but I think I failed because I didn't know what I was doing. Long story short, by some magic I do end up with a number close. So I wait a couple days to call her. This week was busy so I scheduled a date for the next week. On the weekend tho, I had other plans and didn't want to see her so I wouldn't ruin our date on Tuesday. This is where I failed, she txted me and asked what I was doing, this was around 11 on Friday night. I ignored the txt. Next day I found out my friend which had the proximity advantage had fvcked her. I failed, it was my fault, should have moved in sooner.
 

MisterMcGee

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Read the DJ bible. MM is just poisonous to someone who doesn't have the mindset and frame of a DJ.
 

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Uke said:
Here is what happened:

I was at this party and met this one girl. After talking to her for a while we found a few things in common and things were going well. I escalated a little kino, but I think I failed because I didn't know what I was doing. Long story short, by some magic I do end up with a number close. So I wait a couple days to call her. This week was busy so I scheduled a date for the next week. On the weekend tho, I had other plans and didn't want to see her so I wouldn't ruin our date on Tuesday. This is where I failed, she txted me and asked what I was doing, this was around 11 on Friday night. I ignored the txt. Next day I found out my friend which had the proximity advantage had fvcked her. I failed, it was my fault, should have moved in sooner.
Dude, there is basically three ways to look at that situation. Your way, which I'd say isn't benefiting you at all. Or that it's not your fault because she is either a) single and on the market, or B) a *****, niether of which are your fault.

Personally i would say you dodged a bullet.
 
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