"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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narcissist

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day 6.

Last night I was SO close to giving in.

I was looking at pics of hot girls and oh man, SO CLOSE.

I didnt though. I threw my phone and went to sleep.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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day 7.......................


one whole week.

man, I don't think i've gone a whole week without fapping since i was like 8 years old
 

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Started over again but I'm on day 4 now. Coasting for now.
 

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Right, I haven't done this is a while and its good to do it now and then so. I usually manage to get to 2 weeks.

So...
Day 1 right here.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Well. One thing lead to another.

I fapped.

Total length of NoFap: 8 days

Thoughts: Its really damn difficult. And now I feel like sh1t because I fapped. 8 days down the drain. Thats the longest i've ever gone NoFap for. I am determined to go longer now.

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No fap day 1.

This time I will NOT look at porn.

During the last 2 days I was looking at porn and trying not fap. Well that what eventually fvcked me up.

So for this duration I WILL NOT look at porn.

noP, noM, noO!
 

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Day 8. I feel a huge weight on my balls, requesting release. What am I doing this for again? Lol..
 

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As far as an initial hard-wire reset, 2-3 weeks should do it for fap-induced ED. After those 2-3 weeks, one nut a week isn't an issue. Just don't do it with porn. The porn is what de-sensitizes you.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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j.619 said:
As far as an initial hard-wire reset, 2-3 weeks should do it for fap-induced ED. After those 2-3 weeks, one nut a week isn't an issue. Just don't do it with porn. The porn is what de-sensitizes you.
I'll set the target to 2 weeks then. Challenge accepted :rockon:
 

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Day 5

I went 60+ days before and felt spectacular so I know what to look forward to and want that feeling back. Meditating, eating clean food and drinking lots of water help. Guys also need to study sexually transmutation. If the sexual energy isn't used and put towards something useful it will eat you alive. Keep yourself busy! Sitting around and actually having time to masturbate is a sign of inactivity in your lifestyle. What else could you be accomplishing with the time your masturbating mentally and physically.

Started reading this book "Celibacy and Transmutation of sexual energy for deeper meditation". Kindle version is only 2.99 off amazon and I highly recommend it for getting the bigger picture and tips for best results while trying to kick what is essentially an addiction.
 

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Day 4 , got some huge temptations.

Summary: i noticed that i have increase amount of energy, and i noticed more women desires.

What i am assuming here is, that when you don't fap your testosteron level increase and you are becoming more aware of women. Like you get in more concetrated state of awarness to women desires.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Relaxs said:
Day 4 , got some huge temptations.

Summary: i noticed that i have increase amount of energy, and i noticed more women desires.

What i am assuming here is, that when you don't fap your testosteron level increase and you are becoming more aware of women. Like you get in more concetrated state of awarness to women desires.
Interesting insight. From reading around, your testosterone level peaks at day 7-10 of no fapping, after that it decreases and comes back at day 14-20 and so forth.

Heck, after fapping 3-4 times daily I must stop. Joining in.

Day 1
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
Interesting insight. From reading around, your testosterone level peaks at day 7-10 of no fapping, after that it decreases and comes back at day 14-20 and so forth.

Heck, after fapping 3-4 times daily I must stop. Joining in.

Day 1
I think I'm in Day 8 right now(lost count) and I'm having this experience. There's huge temptations but for some reason I think I'm pulling through.
 

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Day 4, wanted a fap over Ellen Page (actress) earlier but resisted. Nothing else to note so far.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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