"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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day 6.

Last night I was SO close to giving in.

I was looking at pics of hot girls and oh man, SO CLOSE.

I didnt though. I threw my phone and went to sleep.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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day 7.......................


one whole week.

man, I don't think i've gone a whole week without fapping since i was like 8 years old
 

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Started over again but I'm on day 4 now. Coasting for now.
 

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Right, I haven't done this is a while and its good to do it now and then so. I usually manage to get to 2 weeks.

So...
Day 1 right here.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Well. One thing lead to another.

I fapped.

Total length of NoFap: 8 days

Thoughts: Its really damn difficult. And now I feel like sh1t because I fapped. 8 days down the drain. Thats the longest i've ever gone NoFap for. I am determined to go longer now.

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No fap day 1.

This time I will NOT look at porn.

During the last 2 days I was looking at porn and trying not fap. Well that what eventually fvcked me up.

So for this duration I WILL NOT look at porn.

noP, noM, noO!
 

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Day 8. I feel a huge weight on my balls, requesting release. What am I doing this for again? Lol..
 

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As far as an initial hard-wire reset, 2-3 weeks should do it for fap-induced ED. After those 2-3 weeks, one nut a week isn't an issue. Just don't do it with porn. The porn is what de-sensitizes you.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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j.619 said:
As far as an initial hard-wire reset, 2-3 weeks should do it for fap-induced ED. After those 2-3 weeks, one nut a week isn't an issue. Just don't do it with porn. The porn is what de-sensitizes you.
I'll set the target to 2 weeks then. Challenge accepted :rockon:
 

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Day 5

I went 60+ days before and felt spectacular so I know what to look forward to and want that feeling back. Meditating, eating clean food and drinking lots of water help. Guys also need to study sexually transmutation. If the sexual energy isn't used and put towards something useful it will eat you alive. Keep yourself busy! Sitting around and actually having time to masturbate is a sign of inactivity in your lifestyle. What else could you be accomplishing with the time your masturbating mentally and physically.

Started reading this book "Celibacy and Transmutation of sexual energy for deeper meditation". Kindle version is only 2.99 off amazon and I highly recommend it for getting the bigger picture and tips for best results while trying to kick what is essentially an addiction.
 

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Day 4 , got some huge temptations.

Summary: i noticed that i have increase amount of energy, and i noticed more women desires.

What i am assuming here is, that when you don't fap your testosteron level increase and you are becoming more aware of women. Like you get in more concetrated state of awarness to women desires.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Relaxs said:
Day 4 , got some huge temptations.

Summary: i noticed that i have increase amount of energy, and i noticed more women desires.

What i am assuming here is, that when you don't fap your testosteron level increase and you are becoming more aware of women. Like you get in more concetrated state of awarness to women desires.
Interesting insight. From reading around, your testosterone level peaks at day 7-10 of no fapping, after that it decreases and comes back at day 14-20 and so forth.

Heck, after fapping 3-4 times daily I must stop. Joining in.

Day 1
 

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CerwinVegaFan said:
Interesting insight. From reading around, your testosterone level peaks at day 7-10 of no fapping, after that it decreases and comes back at day 14-20 and so forth.

Heck, after fapping 3-4 times daily I must stop. Joining in.

Day 1
I think I'm in Day 8 right now(lost count) and I'm having this experience. There's huge temptations but for some reason I think I'm pulling through.
 

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Day 4, wanted a fap over Ellen Page (actress) earlier but resisted. Nothing else to note so far.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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