"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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No Fap Challenge Progress

AnimeAddict

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I think I give up with reporting in everyday. It seems that this thread doesn't have any more activity on it and I just feel like I'm beating a dead horse (no pun intended). All I could say in closing is that this challenge is harder than it seems and really all you probably need is just something to distract you just like any other bad habit. Anyway, it's been fun. I'll catch you all later.

Good luck everyone,

AA, Out of here.

From the beginning
Attempt 2 day 5
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Groovy

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I don't report because it's summer and I am all over the place! Maybe no fapping contributed to my amazing energy. ;) I just came back from one hour jogging. I jog 1 hour 5/6 days of the week now. Today is day 20. I am feeling nice, starting to get lower energy tho, a sign that this raises testosterone. So I must do more exercise! I feel nice. As master lam says, when you do Tai Chi, your mind will be like the water of a deep river, calm, even tho that the surface has moving waters. I do Tai Chi almost every day (been busy going out as well, and the beach + dog! Summer time!).
 

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I feel good this morning. Did a jog session at 4AM this morning. Got ready for work and on my way now. No anxiety. Ready for today. I've been on vacation and been in the house a lot during that period. So that certainly helped me continue fapping. But now I'm back to work to see actual females, so here we go! DAY 1...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Here I go. Jogging this morning. Day 1. Feel tired but good at the same time. Anxiety is low but then again I'm not at work yet. But here goes.
 

Groovy

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I haven't been on the pc in a while... yesterday no PC at all, for example. Today I am here 20 minutes and already I am starting to get urges! WOW internet, you are powerful! Hahaha. I mean, just SITTING on the pc makes me want to go see chicks!
I'm still continuing this challange until I feel 100% amazing mentally and physically. I am not gonna fap until I get erections all the time! Let's do this, guys!
I've been eating more the last days. I feel great, want to get even better. Day 5. I'm feeling better then I was feeling in a long time, because of the new changes in my diet.
I have more muscles and feel more fresh. Feel kind of powerful, yet calm, and manly. I ooze cool energy. I'm sure there must be a bunch of you like me, right? How's the challange going for you guys?

I want even more confidence!
 

NobodyCares1

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I'm at a week 4 right now, though I have doubts about not fapping for too long, I don't want any unexpected wet dreams, I mean seriously :down:

So the question is to FAP or not to FAP?
 

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I don't know why people are saying they're fapping in a No Fap thread.

If you're fapping because you lack discipline, then this thread is not for you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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All I gotta say is that this challenge is super ****ing hard (no pun intended) when your horny all day.

My mind kept drifting to banging the new receptionist we got today at work. HB9. Tried really hard not to think about it. Got home and all was good till I started drifting off again and I just couldn't take it anymore. I needed some release.

I have definitely felt what alot of guys on here have said, about an increase in aggression towards the opposite, being less passive, more confident, ect. when I haven't nutted in a long time.

I can only think of showering and going to the gym as distractions. But going to the gym is a routine thing so I can't just get up and go, considering it would be pointless if I have already gone earlier. Also I get even more horny after I get back from the gym.

Any one got any other methods of stopping M?
 

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I'm in for no fap challenge, starting today....ready set...GO!!

Day 1 = Complete. :)
 

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honestly I did this for a year once. Im not gonna lie it certainly improved me greatly and was despite I was a massive AFC....i was far more social even with females than i ever was.

I really succumbed due to depression + stress + I had just moved and didnt like the area and when i did the no fapping I had deleted all my porn and I managed to stumble across some I didnt delete simply because i had hidden that crap so well.

temptation and boredom got the better of me mixed with stress depression and a new area.

I managed to go another year after that 1-2 week crash. but this was different this time I was too weak to delete the porn so it sat there knowingly for a year.

I then went only 5-6 months.... and finally due to a million reasons i crashed. mental break down from everything. porn reentered the life and hasnt left since.

not gonna lie i prefer the no fapping. my mind was certainly a lot clearer and I was a lot healthier.

I did this following the candeo program if anyone feels like joining it. Im not sure ill pay for them again as I know what to do I just need to do it.

boredom isnt really the killer so much as it is the wave of thoughts. your brain tends to not forget images and videos of hot girls. it gets permanently stored for the most part and can easily be recalled. its basically rewiring those thought patterns.

the problem that i think killed me and turned me into an AFC was i rewired my thought patterns enough to kill the porn but in the process i killed my sex drive completely and turned into an AFC. I really was scared to be caught looking at girls despite i talked to them more than i ever had in ages.

so its a double edged sword you dont want to fap but you dont want to kill your sex drive either. i do testify that it can be done.

also what hurt me is noticed i started wet dreaming. I'd get blue balls that wouldnt go away till I'd wet dream like 6 times every 2 weeks. I also noticed my dreams would get extremely sexual and intense. so while I could tame my conscious thinking my unconscious dreaming was beyond control and the body does need to ejaculate.
 

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This is my second attempt (the first lasted 2 1/2 days)

2nd day completed.


For me, it's more important that I put a stop to my internet porn usage. Which I have. I found this site, http://yourbrainonporn.com/ and it's some pretty scary stuff. I know I am a better man without it. No porn, no fap!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TheMusic

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Fourth no fap attempt (started on january 1st).

Attempt 1: 23 days
Attempt 2: 100 days
Attempt 3: 150 days
Attempt 4: 4 days and still counting
 

Eternal_water

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I havent masturbated yet this year, thats only 4 days though. I'm working later and my boss is really hot.
 

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Eternal_water said:
I havent masturbated yet this year, thats only 4 days though.
I got bored on New Years day, so...., you know, lol, DUH!

3 days in and going strong :)
 

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Hows it going guys, I came close to breaking whilst watching Victoria Azarenka playing tennis, held strong though.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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