"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Day 23 with relapse 12 days ago.

Holy sh*t!! I feel so much better. Finally got out on the courts today after work to hoop it up. I've never played such good ball or been so social with the other players. Guys who used to intimidate me did not, especially after I threw down a two handed slam (something I've only down once in my life). People could not stop me, I got to the rim at will! Thing is, my headache isn't even gone, but I've gone by the state I was in while fapping. I'm through with porn for good, will never go back after how I felt today and yesterday too. Don't even feel like fapping. When this headache is gone, look out!

Mr.SomeoneElse, hope you stick with this. After the worst of withdrawals, you never wanna go back. Really looking forward to your texting thread man, something I've always struggled with.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal_water

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no fap, no porn.

Day 11, its getting easier, I thought it would get harder (no pun intended).

Not noticed any increased attention but I havent been around many girls so...

Sleeping better, something I noticed the last time, I don't understand why that works but I'm not complaining. I played really well on court last night.
 

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I'm frustrated because I don't know what I'm not suppose to look at that would cause me to binge on porn.

Arghhh!

Help!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
 

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Fly By Night said:
Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
Yes. That was your body releasing. It wasn't intentional. Look at it as your body trying to recover itself. Keep at it bro.
 

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bcolon said:
I'm frustrated because I don't know what I'm not suppose to look at that would cause me to binge on porn.

Arghhh!

Help!
Your testosterone is high... you'll have a hard time preventing porn. :D I'd try lots of exercise... but since you're young, that'll possibly raise testosterone even more, unless you do a loooooot of it... What day are you on?

Fly By Night said:
Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
Why don't you masturbate instead of the wet dream? The semen is gonna come out anyway... It'll give you pleasure... I think it's better like that. What's ur age?

Since we're so young, guys, I think our bodies are perfectely capable of ejaculation... just a wild tought! (Super irony!).
 

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snowdog said:
How's that magic pill working for you guys?
Well, this is for health... I tought that was the thing that mattered the most of them all!
 

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Day 26.

Still feel as though i'm going through withdrawals, headaches, also begining to noticed large mood swings.
Sometimes I get really pissed off/low threshold for ****.
Especially with annoying text messages from some girls, I actually flipped out on a girl today instead of ignoring it, which is what I would usually do.
I feel like the withdrawals are going to end soon because I noticed a large increase in my bar game.
Went out last night to play some pool with my buddy and I was insanely social.. Usually when I go out with friends I stay within my group but last night I made friends with a bunch of guys at the bar, they paid for pitchers, I got the waitress's number even, she goes to a Uni close by and told her I'd invite her to one of my parties.

but yeah, withdrawals are ****ty, right now i'm in a pretty pissed off state.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You guys are nuts. Last week I fapped 7 times in a 36 hour period. If I had a GF I'd be up on manslaughter charges.
 

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Groovy said:
Your testosterone is high... you'll have a hard time preventing porn. :D I'd try lots of exercise... but since you're young, that'll possibly raise testosterone even more, unless you do a loooooot of it... What day are you on?
I'm on day 4 today. I feel good but the last three days I have been exercising a lot. So I feel good but extremely horny at the opposite sex. I haven't craved to look at any porn, surf the web for girls or look at any TV, movie shows at all. So everytime I step outside the house I immediately get excited looking at females now than I use to when I would surf the web for pictures.

I guess that's an improvement :)
 

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My mom says that Julius Caesar went on the No Fap challenge right before he conquered the known world and bedded Cleopatra. It really works!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hi guys. Fascinating thread. I came to this site to read something else, but also stumbled across this thread and signed up just to take part in the challenge.

I'm definitely a fapping addict. I can't even remember the last day I didn't fap. I'm sure there's one or two there somewhere but it feels literally years. Most days are multiple faps, usually with porn, but I certainly don't need it. It's incredible that I never surmised that it may be doing me mental harm.

Anyway, by pure chance it's been almost 24 hours since my last fap so I think I can almost book this as having completed one whole day. Yipee. The challenge is on.

My mom says that Julius Caesar went on the No Fap challenge right before he conquered the known world and bedded Cleopatra. It really works!
Hehe.
 

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One more thing I forgot to add. I think some of you are attributing ANYTHING that happens to you physically or to your moods while on this challenge to the fact that you're not fapping. It COULD be related, and quite likely is related, but it's best not to be TOO quick to jump to conclusions.
 

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I was 6 days from completing the 90 day no fap challenge but I fapped last night and this afternoon. F***!!!!

I guess I have to start all over. No fap from now until November 9th.
 

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Eternal_water said:
**** 84 days!! Did your game go up?
I've been focusing on school lately and I have been using my "concentration boost" for classes. I did notice girls checking me out, looking at me as I pass by and "fixing their hair" when they see me.

I wonder if fapping twice in the last 24 hours did some damage?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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