"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Day 23 with relapse 12 days ago.

Holy sh*t!! I feel so much better. Finally got out on the courts today after work to hoop it up. I've never played such good ball or been so social with the other players. Guys who used to intimidate me did not, especially after I threw down a two handed slam (something I've only down once in my life). People could not stop me, I got to the rim at will! Thing is, my headache isn't even gone, but I've gone by the state I was in while fapping. I'm through with porn for good, will never go back after how I felt today and yesterday too. Don't even feel like fapping. When this headache is gone, look out!

Mr.SomeoneElse, hope you stick with this. After the worst of withdrawals, you never wanna go back. Really looking forward to your texting thread man, something I've always struggled with.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Eternal_water

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no fap, no porn.

Day 11, its getting easier, I thought it would get harder (no pun intended).

Not noticed any increased attention but I havent been around many girls so...

Sleeping better, something I noticed the last time, I don't understand why that works but I'm not complaining. I played really well on court last night.
 

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I'm frustrated because I don't know what I'm not suppose to look at that would cause me to binge on porn.

Arghhh!

Help!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fly By Night

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Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
 

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Fly By Night said:
Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
Yes. That was your body releasing. It wasn't intentional. Look at it as your body trying to recover itself. Keep at it bro.
 

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bcolon said:
I'm frustrated because I don't know what I'm not suppose to look at that would cause me to binge on porn.

Arghhh!

Help!
Your testosterone is high... you'll have a hard time preventing porn. :D I'd try lots of exercise... but since you're young, that'll possibly raise testosterone even more, unless you do a loooooot of it... What day are you on?

Fly By Night said:
Had a wet dream >_<
A little came out but managed to hold it back. The erection from the dream was still up for about 3 minutes afterwards. I didn't fap nor watch porn so I can continue counting days?
Why don't you masturbate instead of the wet dream? The semen is gonna come out anyway... It'll give you pleasure... I think it's better like that. What's ur age?

Since we're so young, guys, I think our bodies are perfectely capable of ejaculation... just a wild tought! (Super irony!).
 

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snowdog said:
How's that magic pill working for you guys?
Well, this is for health... I tought that was the thing that mattered the most of them all!
 

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Day 26.

Still feel as though i'm going through withdrawals, headaches, also begining to noticed large mood swings.
Sometimes I get really pissed off/low threshold for ****.
Especially with annoying text messages from some girls, I actually flipped out on a girl today instead of ignoring it, which is what I would usually do.
I feel like the withdrawals are going to end soon because I noticed a large increase in my bar game.
Went out last night to play some pool with my buddy and I was insanely social.. Usually when I go out with friends I stay within my group but last night I made friends with a bunch of guys at the bar, they paid for pitchers, I got the waitress's number even, she goes to a Uni close by and told her I'd invite her to one of my parties.

but yeah, withdrawals are ****ty, right now i'm in a pretty pissed off state.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DonJuanabe

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You guys are nuts. Last week I fapped 7 times in a 36 hour period. If I had a GF I'd be up on manslaughter charges.
 

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Groovy said:
Your testosterone is high... you'll have a hard time preventing porn. :D I'd try lots of exercise... but since you're young, that'll possibly raise testosterone even more, unless you do a loooooot of it... What day are you on?
I'm on day 4 today. I feel good but the last three days I have been exercising a lot. So I feel good but extremely horny at the opposite sex. I haven't craved to look at any porn, surf the web for girls or look at any TV, movie shows at all. So everytime I step outside the house I immediately get excited looking at females now than I use to when I would surf the web for pictures.

I guess that's an improvement :)
 

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My mom says that Julius Caesar went on the No Fap challenge right before he conquered the known world and bedded Cleopatra. It really works!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Hi guys. Fascinating thread. I came to this site to read something else, but also stumbled across this thread and signed up just to take part in the challenge.

I'm definitely a fapping addict. I can't even remember the last day I didn't fap. I'm sure there's one or two there somewhere but it feels literally years. Most days are multiple faps, usually with porn, but I certainly don't need it. It's incredible that I never surmised that it may be doing me mental harm.

Anyway, by pure chance it's been almost 24 hours since my last fap so I think I can almost book this as having completed one whole day. Yipee. The challenge is on.

My mom says that Julius Caesar went on the No Fap challenge right before he conquered the known world and bedded Cleopatra. It really works!
Hehe.
 

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One more thing I forgot to add. I think some of you are attributing ANYTHING that happens to you physically or to your moods while on this challenge to the fact that you're not fapping. It COULD be related, and quite likely is related, but it's best not to be TOO quick to jump to conclusions.
 

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I was 6 days from completing the 90 day no fap challenge but I fapped last night and this afternoon. F***!!!!

I guess I have to start all over. No fap from now until November 9th.
 

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Eternal_water said:
**** 84 days!! Did your game go up?
I've been focusing on school lately and I have been using my "concentration boost" for classes. I did notice girls checking me out, looking at me as I pass by and "fixing their hair" when they see me.

I wonder if fapping twice in the last 24 hours did some damage?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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