"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mr.SomeoneElse

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After watching this
(From 11 min point for those of you in a rush)
One guy reports all of this after 43 days of not fapping
  • ~I have a lot more courage

    ~I speak with a lot more clarity and control

    ~People and their issues don't bother me as much. I just allow them to be who they are

    ~I can hold eye contact with women

    ~Men respect me more. This has been really noticeable

    ~I feel like a man. Just this inner confidence...I feel like a rock

    ~I am not as groggy when I wake up

    ~I find myself meditating without even trying. I just go within and feel super great

    ~I hardly get nervous about anything. Just relaxed confidence

    ~My circle of friends and associates have been looking at me differently. Its like they can sense something different but they can't put their finger on it

    ~My face looks brighter and I don't look as tired as I used to. I feel and look a lot more alert

    ~Life feels more...real. There is a certain quality of it....

Keen to hear if any of you have any experience from this so far
I know this was posted in the 'anything' section but since this part of the site is more frequented I thought we should share it here.

Apparently it takes 4-5 months for us younger guys to re-program our brains
where as it takes only 1 - 2 months for older guys

Interested to see how it affects me, i'm going to document it here.

Still 1 day in for me :rockon:

If any of you want to join it that haven't already started feel free!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Achieving difficult goals does that
 

BigSmooth

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Sure why not. I'm already on day 3 of this.
 

Packers2010

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i've tried this like 3 times now... i lasted a week. is the longest with no fapping,

though i do really need to kick it. so lets do it!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Eternal_water said:
I failed......
hahaha, damn man. Try again lol
 

Mr.SomeoneElse

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Ive been reading up on this even more.
The results people are claiming are insane
It makes sense if you think about it..

We're engineered to have sex with woman, constantly
whenever we get these strong urges we just open up a new tab on the internet
Our brains are wired to exert these urges infront of our computer
Which in the long run decreases our need to have good social skills, confidence, alpha mentality, eye contact etc..
By stopping fapping and watching porn
We start to learn that the only way to fullfill these urges are in real life situations, we 'reboot' our brains (takes 90 days apparently) and gain those social skills, idgaf attitude that most men should have.

The withdrawls are supposed to be insane.
I never thought I fapped a lot, I only did it maybe 3-4x a week,
If I cant get to bed on time i fap
with the odd day or week of doing it everyday or multiple times in a day
Not sure if this is average but I thought it was pretty regular

Looking back on it I can't remember a time that i've gone longer than two weeks without fapping, which is kind of ****ed to think about and still say I'm not addicted. This is definitely going to be interesting,
Woke up with strongwood this morning, saluting the world, sad I couldn't do anything about it

..Day 2
 

Eternal_water

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I went on a school trip once for 3 weeks (quite a long school trip). I was constantly in contact with all my friends and having a brilliant time.

I didn't masterbate once in those entire 3 weeks.

Its the most social I've ever been. Its easy If you're busy all day. Its when you've got nothing to do.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Mike32ct

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I ready to start this.

My only question is....Does any female start to look good after an extended period of no porn and no whacking off?

I'd hate to start eyeing fatties lol.

Or is it just a temporary side effect that goes away in say a month?
 

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Mike32ct said:
I ready to start this.

My only question is....Does any female start to look good after an extended period of no porn and no whacking off?

I'd hate to start eyeing fatties lol.
Yes they do.

If you're not sure just give yourself some time to cool off. After the gym and my urges are down my eyesight goes back to normal.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i tried this **** last semester and i went in a month strong, then after an intimate priming, i had to get one off :l

its been on and off since then. Can you still edge?
 

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From forum.bodybuilding.com:

"Serious thread. This seems like bullshiit but I'm not lying.

Was beta, depressed, had anxiety before.

Almost three weeks in, no fap no porn. So much change that I can not adjust.

I don' know if my body smells like straight testosterone, but something is going on. My mind is blown at the increased attention I am getting from women. Girls that I have known, and complete strangers. I understand girls that I know showing more interest, considering that I am much more social and flirtatious, but complete strangers are hitting on me hard as fuk.

Girls literally fighting over me. Not combat, but "drama" type.
Get way too much attention at bars and clubs. I feel overwhelmed but it does not show, they just keep coming.
Girls keep giving me their numbers and actually asking me to fuk them, I don;t even know what to do.
Get eye fuked all day.
I have so many options that it's overwhelming.

I have almost no anxiety so I flirt with every girl no matter what.
It takes a lot more alcohol to have any effect on me.
Had to but new polo's because of the gains. (Strength, and size increase from my new appetite)"




http://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=144281411&page=1
 

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Testosterone suppression at its finest...
 

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Our brains were not engineered for porn. This is a good thread not for just quitting yanking the wood, but also abolishing porn from y'alls lives.


Day 4 and going strong.
 

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I've been doing a 90 day challenge off and on for a few months now. Only made it 10 days so far :(

Felt amazing (great energy, witty as all get out, funny, confident, ect) but succumbed to boredom.

I'm in it 100 percent now though and on day 2 thus far.

If you guys are familiar with TED talks, you should watch the one on internet porn, very eye opening.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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