intraining
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holy crap my whole family is involved in a relationship except me!!! My aunty,my two younger brothers,and my mother.Then there's me......
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Daddy The Pimp said:-get ur ass outta house ,
-stop masturbating .. Very important
-find new friends [ good ones ]
-have lot of fun - this is attractive for girls
-read djbible and if u can buy some pickup books ..
-watch some stand-up comedians performances - to get some good humor ( to make people laugh ) this is very attractive ..
Find a hobby [ sports , working out , music instruments ]
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And ur gonna see that ur life's gonna be much more richer that it is now..
And one more thing .. dont try to get women .. first try to have fun for yourself .. IF UR NOT HAPPY , HOW IN THE HECK ARE U GONNA MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY ???
And do NOT hurry .. Greatest PUA's havent been laid before they were 30 .. and now they get laid everytime they want ..
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
intraining said:Time and time again i make thread about this but dont seem to do anything to better myself in between these posts.So the title pretty much equals how my life is going right now.Never been kissed and have never had sex and im 22(23 in march) and if that whole 2012 stuff is true im truly ****ed.My life is pretty much clockwork....wake up go to work 9:30am........go home at 6:00pm.......get home at 6:30 or 7:00pm.Thats how its been the past few months and i wont get into my last girl experience cuz even though it had high points i didnt get the girl and she was feeling me(no experience and i ****ed it up with my AFC ways).I get invited to go places every now and then but i still dont go because something is holding back and i dont kno how to shake it.
All i want to do is date someone but that is to much for me to handle i guess.Im stuck in the whole im ugly and no girl will like me phase with no near signs of letting up.Im inexperienced and its going to hurt me in the long run.Im stuch guys and i need help and yes i kno i need to help myself but agrhhhhhhh...... i need more friends/i need to date/i need to get my first kiss/i need to have sex/i want to feel wanted/i want to be busy over the weekends/i want to see a new movie(just been buying renting movies and watching them alone)
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
The bad thing is , since it seems you are pretty hard to jump start and motivate, my gut feeling is that you may just end up a statistic.ItsOnNow said:No,I am either just lazy,procrastinate too much,too far into my own comfort zone that I just have little if any effort now. Its always been a mental thing for me. It like struck me at a young age,and it just took over me. I mean, in my head, I can like pysche myself up,but I haven't been able to go for it all the way. I am slightly fat,but not obese,I have dreams/passions,but find myself daydreaming alot,I see everyone else going for it,or having it,and yet I don't,or cannot seem to find it in myself. Its like the want is there,but the action isn't.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
so that's all you've done in two months. Look man, it may seem hard but it's not impossible. Just have some confidence and go out with some of your friends. If you have no friends then try to be social and make some. Getting girls with friends is always easier. PLUS I think you're place too much emphasis on getting a gf. She really won't make you that happy in the long run. I think you have other problems in your life that you need to work out first. You seem depressed but not completely.intraining said:Alright i got a new haircut and im feeling good about my self.Next saturday is my birthday(23) and i really wish i had done something before then(kiss/lay/date)
ezily said:so that's all you've done in two months. Look man, it may seem hard but it's not impossible. Just have some confidence and go out with some of your friends. If you have no friends then try to be social and make some. Getting girls with friends is always easier. PLUS I think you're place too much emphasis on getting a gf. She really won't make you that happy in the long run. I think you have other problems in your life that you need to work out first. You seem depressed but not completely.
Well I know some girls who kiss guys that whine all the time and play the pity card because they feel the world owes them something and they shouldn't have to work for anything. I also know girls who kiss guys who don't take themselves too seriously, enjoy life to the fullest, join sports, dress well, know how to cook, have good bodies, make alot of money, have alot of friends, and don't complain at all.intraining said:I never said I need a girlfriend I just want to date someone.I want to kiss a girl and lay a girl
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.