intraining
Don Juan
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holy crap my whole family is involved in a relationship except me!!! My aunty,my two younger brothers,and my mother.Then there's me......
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Daddy The Pimp said:-get ur ass outta house ,
-stop masturbating .. Very important
-find new friends [ good ones ]
-have lot of fun - this is attractive for girls
-read djbible and if u can buy some pickup books ..
-watch some stand-up comedians performances - to get some good humor ( to make people laugh ) this is very attractive ..
Find a hobby [ sports , working out , music instruments ]
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And ur gonna see that ur life's gonna be much more richer that it is now..
And one more thing .. dont try to get women .. first try to have fun for yourself .. IF UR NOT HAPPY , HOW IN THE HECK ARE U GONNA MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY ???
And do NOT hurry .. Greatest PUA's havent been laid before they were 30 .. and now they get laid everytime they want ..
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
intraining said:Time and time again i make thread about this but dont seem to do anything to better myself in between these posts.So the title pretty much equals how my life is going right now.Never been kissed and have never had sex and im 22(23 in march) and if that whole 2012 stuff is true im truly ****ed.My life is pretty much clockwork....wake up go to work 9:30am........go home at 6:00pm.......get home at 6:30 or 7:00pm.Thats how its been the past few months and i wont get into my last girl experience cuz even though it had high points i didnt get the girl and she was feeling me(no experience and i ****ed it up with my AFC ways).I get invited to go places every now and then but i still dont go because something is holding back and i dont kno how to shake it.
All i want to do is date someone but that is to much for me to handle i guess.Im stuck in the whole im ugly and no girl will like me phase with no near signs of letting up.Im inexperienced and its going to hurt me in the long run.Im stuch guys and i need help and yes i kno i need to help myself but agrhhhhhhh...... i need more friends/i need to date/i need to get my first kiss/i need to have sex/i want to feel wanted/i want to be busy over the weekends/i want to see a new movie(just been buying renting movies and watching them alone)
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
The bad thing is , since it seems you are pretty hard to jump start and motivate, my gut feeling is that you may just end up a statistic.ItsOnNow said:No,I am either just lazy,procrastinate too much,too far into my own comfort zone that I just have little if any effort now. Its always been a mental thing for me. It like struck me at a young age,and it just took over me. I mean, in my head, I can like pysche myself up,but I haven't been able to go for it all the way. I am slightly fat,but not obese,I have dreams/passions,but find myself daydreaming alot,I see everyone else going for it,or having it,and yet I don't,or cannot seem to find it in myself. Its like the want is there,but the action isn't.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
so that's all you've done in two months. Look man, it may seem hard but it's not impossible. Just have some confidence and go out with some of your friends. If you have no friends then try to be social and make some. Getting girls with friends is always easier. PLUS I think you're place too much emphasis on getting a gf. She really won't make you that happy in the long run. I think you have other problems in your life that you need to work out first. You seem depressed but not completely.intraining said:Alright i got a new haircut and im feeling good about my self.Next saturday is my birthday(23) and i really wish i had done something before then(kiss/lay/date)
ezily said:so that's all you've done in two months. Look man, it may seem hard but it's not impossible. Just have some confidence and go out with some of your friends. If you have no friends then try to be social and make some. Getting girls with friends is always easier. PLUS I think you're place too much emphasis on getting a gf. She really won't make you that happy in the long run. I think you have other problems in your life that you need to work out first. You seem depressed but not completely.
Well I know some girls who kiss guys that whine all the time and play the pity card because they feel the world owes them something and they shouldn't have to work for anything. I also know girls who kiss guys who don't take themselves too seriously, enjoy life to the fullest, join sports, dress well, know how to cook, have good bodies, make alot of money, have alot of friends, and don't complain at all.intraining said:I never said I need a girlfriend I just want to date someone.I want to kiss a girl and lay a girl
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.