I'm going no contact with this chick but she still has something of mine. It's not a great loss if i never see this item again. Should i ask for this item back or continue on the path of strickly no contact? My gut just says to let her keep it since maybe it will remind her of me and fvck with her head. This chick has disrespected me and taken me for granted.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
No Contact Question
- Thread starter TizZle
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
wonderbread
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Bump for the answer to this question, I'm also in the same situation. Ex has 2 of my sweatshirts. >:[
jnice48146
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I'm in the 1st week of NC and this b*tch has my slippers. I said F it and bought a new pair. She has texted me twice asking if I want to come get them, or her drop them off. Her dog was fond of sleeping with them. He would drag one into her bed with him. Can you say "mindfvck"?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
wonderbread
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Yeah I would but the drive to her house is like half an hour and I don't feel like driving up there for 2 sweatshirts to have that awkward moment with her, even though they are nice. I'd rather have her get all sad and sh*t when she sees them. (its already worked she texted me and said something like she saw my sweatshirts and thought about me) but I didn't reply to that message.FreD_BeaR said:im also in the same situation. But id want those sweatshirts back thats for sure haha.
Wasabi_Master
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my ex has about $600 worth of my stuff, i said fvck it , let her keep this sh!t.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.