I'm going no contact with this chick but she still has something of mine. It's not a great loss if i never see this item again. Should i ask for this item back or continue on the path of strickly no contact? My gut just says to let her keep it since maybe it will remind her of me and fvck with her head. This chick has disrespected me and taken me for granted.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
No Contact Question
- Thread starter TizZle
- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wonderbread
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Bump for the answer to this question, I'm also in the same situation. Ex has 2 of my sweatshirts. >:[
jnice48146
Don Juan
I'm in the 1st week of NC and this b*tch has my slippers. I said F it and bought a new pair. She has texted me twice asking if I want to come get them, or her drop them off. Her dog was fond of sleeping with them. He would drag one into her bed with him. Can you say "mindfvck"?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
wonderbread
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Yeah I would but the drive to her house is like half an hour and I don't feel like driving up there for 2 sweatshirts to have that awkward moment with her, even though they are nice. I'd rather have her get all sad and sh*t when she sees them. (its already worked she texted me and said something like she saw my sweatshirts and thought about me) but I didn't reply to that message.FreD_BeaR said:im also in the same situation. But id want those sweatshirts back thats for sure haha.
Wasabi_Master
Don Juan
my ex has about $600 worth of my stuff, i said fvck it , let her keep this sh!t.
tsmith2334
Master Don Juan
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.