"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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No Contact practice is becoming obsolete!!

alvinkels

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No contact; NC; is good and it works but if you are not careful it can back fire. The best revenge to any break up is indifference. Unless the person is/was abusive; no contact is necessary but rather less contact should be applied. Keep things cool never talk about the break up. Behave like nothing happened.
After several break ups I have come to realized that what causes us pain is the thought of "we might become" because we had planned a whole life a heard of us and now that dreams is coming to an end. Men had always had second chances. In sports, when our team loses we have next season to win. We were never thought how to take permanent losses.
Your ability to relinquish that dream and focus how a woman should proof herself to you is better and the best. I have seen girls that expected me to do no contact but I didn't instead I baited them and kept them around to see the man I became and becoming and I can literally see regrets in their eyes. They wish they hadn't call things off. Both gender are aware of no contact hence practicing that can backfire because it becomes some sort of game you are both playing. So turn things around be indifferent but understand that it is over and forget about whatever you have in mind. Meet other women and have fun. Eventually as she is around to see how you are just moving on it is sign that you didn't actually care that much and that thought alone is better than any form of revenge. Set correct boundaries and make sure she doesn't cross them; literally put her in her place. Simple!!

It is better for a woman to fear and respect you than to like you and love you. Because the former you know they can't play games with you.
"Women **** men they respect" -CobraTate
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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No contact isn't a tool to get a woman back, it should be to focus on yourself, heal the damage caused by the relationship ending and start to move forward with your life.

If you are using No Contact as some strategy to get back your girlfriend or ex, you are doing it for the wrong reasons to begin with.

It's not for her, it's for you.
 

alvinkels

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No contact isn't a tool to get a woman back, it should be to focus on yourself, heal the damage caused by the relationship ending and start to move forward with your life.

If you are using No Contact as some strategy to get back your girlfriend or ex, you are doing it for the wrong reasons to begin with.

It's not for her, it's for you.
I can't agree less
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What no contact means to me is that she is tainted goods sexually. It says that she is sexually unappetizing to me (most likely because she was secretly cheating or just behaving unacceptable in respect to our sexual chemistry).

No contact means I think she is nasty now.
 
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