"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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_sideways_

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So...long story short.
I went ghost. She said she made herself busy and "got by" during the no contact.
I said she easily could have called.
Said she didnt like that i disappear.
But i didnt...i was here.
Not sure about this one....
 

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Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Knight of Roses

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Ghosting is a natural part of the game, sh1t happens. My suggestion is that you never portray any negative attributes upon her, that tactic hardly ever works. Just say, "I apologize for going MIA on you, life has been hectic with work and lots of traveling. If you're free on blah blah, let's meet up for drinks".

Done. Simple. If she's interested, she'll bite, if not, move on. I've ghosted girls for 12 months and hooked up with them using similar lines.
 

marmel75

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Dude stop playing the passive role. Men are not passive they are the aggressors.

What the hell has happened to this generation where they just sit in the backseat and watch as life goes by and they go wherever the driver takes them then instead of demanding to be the driver and determine where they want to go??

This creeps into ALL aspects of your life. Dude just stop. You aren't the victim. Men take action not sit back and wonder why something didn't happen.
 

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How much pre workout have you had bro? Start your own "be your own driver" thread. Wasnt playing victim.
Just wanted to be alone. Geez
 

lizardking82

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I see it this way: you did one little mistake that is you confronted her about it right away, letting her know you were bitter for it.

I will not tell you to "fake it and act like you don't care", I will tell you it would profit you the most if you got to a place where you minimally care if they ghost or not AND you actively pursue other women if one of them is stagnating and not moving forward. That will help your mindset a lot.

As @marmel75 very well put it, don't sit around waiting, go on about your things.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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