"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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NO contact... Month Later she tags me

bob2007

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The first girl , went on a date, she wanted to bring her friend... and I was kinda third wheel on their date and the day was a big waste of time... almost like her way of breaking up with me (even tho we're not exactly dating). She messages me back 1 month later, but I'm out of the country by then.

Girl number 2, third date, no kissing, she ends the date abruptly before dinner, some excuse.
Asked her if she wanted to go for a hike, she said busy. No contact.

1 Month later she "tags" me on FB. Some article guy learning Dutch. She's dutch.

I would reconnect with her if there's sex possibility. But seems low chance of that.
At least the other girl messaged me. This one it's just a tag.

I'm a little tempted to reconnect cause she has some good contacts in Holland and I'm a software developer/distributor.
But these confounding goals confuse me haha.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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