"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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SealTeamSix

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Hey fellas ..

Suppose you made approach at a club .. u talk to girls .. then you split without closing. Let say for while you went away from her .. But you now want to get back to her .. what would be most appropriate approach?


Any comment, suggestion welcomed!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why would you "re-approach", meaning why are you approaching this situation as if it was a completely new pick-up? If you've generated ANY rapport in your time with the girl (and it's not hard in the club, sometimes just exchanging glances is enough rapport in the club :D ), then you shouldn't have a problem approaching her later on in the night.
 

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Yeah this hsouldn't be too difficult... just pick up on an old thread or be like... gave away any numbers yet?
 

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squirrels is right, you shouldn't have any problem talking to the same girl again, unless she gave you the cold shoulder the first time. One thing I like to do is comment on how other guys look. So I'll go up to a lady I was talking with earlier and immediately jokingly say:

"Hey, that guy over there is hot, go hit on him."

That gets a laugh out of her and conversation flows from that. Obviously this isn't for everyone, but it works great for me.
 

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Originally posted by GaryNas
squirrels is right, you shouldn't have any problem talking to the same girl again, unless she gave you the cold shoulder the first time. One thing I like to do is comment on how other guys look. So I'll go up to a lady I was talking with earlier and immediately jokingly say:

"Hey, that guy over there is hot, go hit on him."

That gets a laugh out of her and conversation flows from that. Obviously this isn't for everyone, but it works great for me.
You know I used to do that sort of thing to. I stay away from it now though. I am actually sick of conventional clubs, I will go if I am going with a group of girls I already know but If I am going solo or with a wingman I hit up the latin clubs. A much better time if you ask me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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