"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nicer than the nice guy

ethnomethodologist

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What is it about ME, that makes me NICER to the ladies, than the nice guy?

Why is playing games, nicer than playing subordinate?

There are so many questions, so many answers. I notice now, and am happier, when I treat the ladies, with UTMOST respect. Compared to back in the day, when I would give them what I thought they wanted, instead of what I now think they need.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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because they actually enjoy it.


if women wanted an approval seeking subordinate playtoy, they'd get a puppy.

oh, and i almost forgot to add. i think AFC should be revised to read "Approval seeking eFfin Chump"
 

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Hey this brings up a good point, which is that nice behavior and the impression it makes is dependent on the position it's coming from.

When someone is submissive, it is assumed they will be 'nice' because they are not your equal. You are their superior, hence any behavior from them that isn't 'nice' is a challenge, and hence they avoid it to keep your good graces. Thus this kind of nice behavior earns you no points with anybody, because it is self-serving.

Niceness combined with dominance, however, is a form of validation. When you are complimentary without being submissive, what you are really doing is enhancing another person's status and elevating them. This is the kind of niceness that does not seem to be self-serving, as it is not necessary for you to be complimentary to someone who is considered inferior to you. People will be much more responsive to this sort of niceness.

In conclusion, those who suffer from 'nice-guy' syndrome are wise to continue being kind while ditching submissive overtones and they will be seen as actually being nice rather than just being kiss-ass submissive.
 

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Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
What is it about ME, that makes me NICER to the ladies, than the nice guy?

Why is playing games, nicer than playing subordinate?

There are so many questions, so many answers. I notice now, and am happier, when I treat the ladies, with UTMOST respect. Compared to back in the day, when I would give them what I thought they wanted, instead of what I now think they need.
Being nice is boring. Being mean is funny as hell!! It creates a reaction from her. It makes her wonder what is different about this guy than all the others. It gives you something to talk about and it creates an emotional connection in the conversation.
 

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"There are so many questions, so many answers. I notice now, and am happier, when I treat the ladies, with UTMOST respect."

Where can I find someone like you?

One doesn't have to be an a**hole to be funny. He can just be confident and funny, which I find very attractive in a guy.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Originally posted by blueangel83
Where can I find someone like you?
Look for the guy that everybody smiles and laughs at when they see him, if he laughs back, that's one of me.

if women wanted an approval seeking subordinate playtoy, they'd get a puppy.
So don't seek attention, do your own thing. Give them something they enjoy, not just whatever they want. If you think that is bad, try telling them why they're going to enjoy it too, nothing '*******' about doing that.

those who suffer from 'nice-guy' syndrome are wise to continue being kind while ditching submissive overtones
See, BrotherAp gets it...

It gives you something to talk about and it creates an emotional connection in the conversation.
You can do this while treating everybody with respect. An ******* makes a new enemy, and makes other people get embarrassed. A nice guy embarrasses himself, and than makes a new friend.
One doesn't have to be an a**hole to be funny. He can just be confident and funny, which I find very attractive in a guy.
 

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the deal on niceness

ok niceness in guys comes from mommy (with the best intentions) telling u to be really nice to women b/c theyll like u for ur kindness. so ur conditioned from young age to be nice.
ok now when u grow up and ur exposed to how f-d up the world is u learn the hard way how u cant b mr. nice guy. ull get stepped on. so either:

ur an innocent underexposed, soft p--sy, delicate and ure gonna get f--cked repeatedly by others

or

ure putting on a nice guy act to impress the girl

nice meaning
(1) sweet
(2) agreeable
(3) generous
(4) inoffensive
(5) easy
theres a time and place for everything including niceness
trying being less of those things above, u r still being disrespectful by any means.
 
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