so i was just talking to this girl, and she was talking about how nice i treated her (shes been having problems lately) now is taht a bad thing? (thinkin it is) and so how do i get out of that? i want to treat her nice because i really like her and think she deserves to be treated nice, but i dont want to be put in that "friends" category... whats some stuff i could do? any help?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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Yeah...that's bad.
Have you flirted at all with her....ever? If not, you damn well better start.
(It'll take time for her to come around...if it even has a chance in hell of happening)
Have you flirted at all with her....ever? If not, you damn well better start.
(It'll take time for her to come around...if it even has a chance in hell of happening)
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i think you are doomed. every single girl that i desire seems to want me badly. i don't have to worry about whether she desires me or not. it is pretty obvious from very early on. i feel that if she doesn't act entirely interested, she must not really want you.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
whatever you do, don't become her emotional tampon. I'm in that situation right now. It sucks. If she asks you about emotional issues she's having (especially about other dudes) please don't talk to her about it. I made that mistake. I had such a case of one-itis and AFC i thought it was the only way to get close to this girl... what do i have to show for it now??? a girl that asks me about her guy problems. Good luck brotha.