so i was just talking to this girl, and she was talking about how nice i treated her (shes been having problems lately) now is taht a bad thing? (thinkin it is) and so how do i get out of that? i want to treat her nice because i really like her and think she deserves to be treated nice, but i dont want to be put in that "friends" category... whats some stuff i could do? any help?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Yeah...that's bad.
Have you flirted at all with her....ever? If not, you damn well better start.
(It'll take time for her to come around...if it even has a chance in hell of happening)
Have you flirted at all with her....ever? If not, you damn well better start.
(It'll take time for her to come around...if it even has a chance in hell of happening)
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i think you are doomed. every single girl that i desire seems to want me badly. i don't have to worry about whether she desires me or not. it is pretty obvious from very early on. i feel that if she doesn't act entirely interested, she must not really want you.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
whatever you do, don't become her emotional tampon. I'm in that situation right now. It sucks. If she asks you about emotional issues she's having (especially about other dudes) please don't talk to her about it. I made that mistake. I had such a case of one-itis and AFC i thought it was the only way to get close to this girl... what do i have to show for it now??? a girl that asks me about her guy problems. Good luck brotha.