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[chandidas]

hi there everyone
as u can c im a noob here and i need some opinions from more experienced ppl like u guys
u see there is this girl, we been kinda messin around n stuff and recently, we didnt see or talk to each other coz i had to leave town for a month.
and after i came bak, she came around wanted to hangout with me so we did...
anyways, that was only couple of days ago, and earier today i smsd her to drink up with me tonite..and she didnt give me clear cut yes/no answer but she said she was working, so i was like 'come on its a weekend, lets jus get drunk!' then came her reply saying 'just leave me alone, i really need to finish my work'

i feel like im not in conrol of this whole thing and she doesnt like me for some reason..not that i care but she can b a real fun person to hangout with.

what do you guys think? am i over-analyzing? i dont think its a space issue coz we barely see each other these days:cuss:

 

[Tomatoes]

She sounds pretty busy to me

 

[chandidas]

She sounds pretty busy to me

ya..but it just feels weird that instead just saying 'im busy', she said 'leave me alone'...coz she usually doesnt talk like that to me

 

[Fuglydude]

I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.

 

[chandidas]

I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.

thnx..i will do that

anyone else with advice?

 

[Ghengis Kahn]

thnx..i will do that

anyone else with advice?

I advise you to learn how to communicate. Stop writing in that Messenger shorthand. It's real annoying, and many people here will not even read your post because of it. You'll miss out on a lot of good advice.

Men communicate in full sentences with reasonably decent spelling, and as a result they garner respect from others. You probably are offended and don't think it matters, but trust me, it does.

 

[Tom Juan]

Please see my topic about "pinging".

 

[chandidas]

I advise you to learn how to communicate. Stop writing in that Messenger shorthand. It's real annoying, and many people here will not even read your post because of it. You'll miss out on a lot of good advice.

Men communicate in full sentences with reasonably decent spelling, and as a result they garner respect from others. You probably are offended and don't think it matters, but trust me, it does.

sorry to offend you with my shorthand spelling

however, as for talking about communicating, as long as one can understand another, the main objective of communication is reached.

as you say, people who get offended by others' spelling/grammar/punctuation mistakes or shorthand writings should serious reflect themselves and ask yourselves why you are getting angry over little things like that.

I'm not offended however, i appreciate your feed back and will try to post future threads in more decent manner...with less shorthand writing; it's just very surprising to see how some people take little things seriously...some people just need to relax a bit!

by the way, its ghengis KHAN not kahn...:crazy: thanks a lot spelling nazi!

 

[chandidas]

Please see my topic about "pinging".

that is a great post!

 

[Tom Juan]

Thanks.

 

[IsiMan84]

I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.

He said it was through a text message so there isn't any non-verbal communication. Whether or not he is into her should not be an issue, because then he is getting emotions in the way of what is real.

If you want to remain in control of the situation then cut her off and don't say anything more to her. Let her come back to you. If she really was interested I think she would have said something other than "leave me alone," because that doesn't look good in any situation.