"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hi there everyone
as u can c im a noob here and i need some opinions from more experienced ppl like u guys
u see there is this girl, we been kinda messin around n stuff and recently, we didnt see or talk to each other coz i had to leave town for a month.
and after i came bak, she came around wanted to hangout with me so we did...
anyways, that was only couple of days ago, and earier today i smsd her to drink up with me tonite..and she didnt give me clear cut yes/no answer but she said she was working, so i was like 'come on its a weekend, lets jus get drunk!' then came her reply saying 'just leave me alone, i really need to finish my work'

i feel like im not in conrol of this whole thing and she doesnt like me for some reason..not that i care but she can b a real fun person to hangout with.

what do you guys think? am i over-analyzing? i dont think its a space issue coz we barely see each other these days:cuss:
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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She sounds pretty busy to me
 
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Tomatoes said:
She sounds pretty busy to me
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ya..but it just feels weird that instead just saying 'im busy', she said 'leave me alone'...coz she usually doesnt talk like that to me
 
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I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.
 
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Fuglydude said:
I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.
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thnx..i will do that

anyone else with advice?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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chandidas said:
thnx..i will do that

anyone else with advice?
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I advise you to learn how to communicate. Stop writing in that Messenger shorthand. It's real annoying, and many people here will not even read your post because of it. You'll miss out on a lot of good advice.

Men communicate in full sentences with reasonably decent spelling, and as a result they garner respect from others. You probably are offended and don't think it matters, but trust me, it does.
 
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Please see my topic about "pinging".
 
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Ghengis Kahn said:
I advise you to learn how to communicate. Stop writing in that Messenger shorthand. It's real annoying, and many people here will not even read your post because of it. You'll miss out on a lot of good advice.

Men communicate in full sentences with reasonably decent spelling, and as a result they garner respect from others. You probably are offended and don't think it matters, but trust me, it does.
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sorry to offend you with my shorthand spelling

however, as for talking about communicating, as long as one can understand another, the main objective of communication is reached.

as you say, people who get offended by others' spelling/grammar/punctuation mistakes or shorthand writings should serious reflect themselves and ask yourselves why you are getting angry over little things like that.

I'm not offended however, i appreciate your feed back and will try to post future threads in more decent manner...with less shorthand writing; it's just very surprising to see how some people take little things seriously...some people just need to relax a bit!

by the way, its ghengis KHAN not kahn...:crazy: thanks a lot spelling nazi!
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Fuglydude said:
I'd base it on how she said it...I mean reading her non-verbal communication. Personally I wouldn't call her after she said that to me unless I was really into her. She'd have to contact me the next time she wanted to hang out.
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He said it was through a text message so there isn't any non-verbal communication. Whether or not he is into her should not be an issue, because then he is getting emotions in the way of what is real.

If you want to remain in control of the situation then cut her off and don't say anything more to her. Let her come back to you. If she really was interested I think she would have said something other than "leave me alone," because that doesn't look good in any situation.
 
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