"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Ok so I’m on a break from my missus and, whilst on this break I’ve just discovered all this stuff and how plugged into the female matrix I have been all my life. She has withheld sex for months, says she’s gone off it and is now deciding whether or not she wants us to be together.
I have learned that I was complicit in this because I lost my masculinity and became a needy beta years ago, basically asking nicely if perhaps we could have sex later if it’s not too much trouble etc...

Now I’m armed with this knowledge I’m at ease with whatever she wants because if I do go back it’ll be on my terms or I’m off to get a place of my own and she can stick it up her (sizeable) ass. Her loss, definitely not mine!

I’m not worried about her for the moment, not even bothering to text her now, just focused and working on myself.

My request is really for advice at this stage, given how new to all this I am.

Many thanks.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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She has withheld sex for months, says she’s gone off it and is now deciding whether or not she wants us to be together
Easy answer-

Step 1: Tell her that "you will make her mind up for her and you are going to go a different direction and start seeing other people. No discussion, you have made your mind up. Do not contact me because I am not going to respond back".

Step 2: Go hit up new chicks and start dating ASAP. And dont respond back to the bytch.

Step 3: Never take that bytch back.

There is probably another guy banging her. As a friend of mine says "Unless she is a vegetarian lesbian, she is getting her meat somewhere".

Hope this helps.
 

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Easy answer-

Step 1: Tell her that "you will make her mind up for her and you are going to go a different direction and start seeing other people. No discussion, you have made your mind up. Do not contact me because I am not going to respond back".

Step 2: Go hit up new chicks and start dating ASAP. And dont respond back to the bytch.

Step 3: Never take that bytch back.

There is probably another guy banging her. As a friend of mine says "Unless she is a vegetarian lesbian, she is getting her meat somewhere".

Hope this helps.
I would skip your first step on his case, she already did this, he only didn't notice.
 

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yeah, get new women in the mix asap, it's amazing how your views change when you have other options and can focus you're attention elsewhere without having to feel lonely. Spin other plates up, it takes a bit of time but once you get them going you're not at the mercy of one girls whims and mood swings and you're a lot happier
 

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Gone off sex ??? No, she’s gone off sex with you. Sorry to have to point that out. This was the deal at end of my marriage. Sex was a bargaining chip. Run away. Find other women. Do not let this one leave you hanging while she decides if you’ll be a couple. Take back your power.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Kiss it good bye, do your own thing, go enjoy life with new women! It will be best for your improvement and mental health.
 

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Ok so I’m on a break from my missus and, whilst on this break I’ve just discovered all this stuff and how plugged into the female matrix I have been all my life. She has withheld sex for months, says she’s gone off it and is now deciding whether or not she wants us to be together.
I have learned that I was complicit in this because I lost my masculinity and became a needy beta years ago, basically asking nicely if perhaps we could have sex later if it’s not too much trouble etc...

Now I’m armed with this knowledge I’m at ease with whatever she wants because if I do go back it’ll be on my terms or I’m off to get a place of my own and she can stick it up her (sizeable) ass. Her loss, definitely not mine!

I’m not worried about her for the moment, not even bothering to text her now, just focused and working on myself.

My request is really for advice at this stage, given how new to all this I am.

Many thanks.
If doesn't want to have sex with you then kick her out and divorce her. Why would anyone ever put up with that? You got friendzoned by your wife.
 
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