"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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new years eve party

Someone Much cooler

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I wanna go out for new years eve. I was thining about going somewhere in manhattan with my girl and a few friends. I'm from philly so I dont know NYC that well. Does anyone have any suggestions? I'm looking to go somewhere upscale and classy, some place nice but not insanly expensive. I was thinking a hotel party or maybe a nice club or someothig. Also does any one have any recommendations as to what i should wear for such an event? I usually wear alot of shirts from express, what do yall think.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Someone Much cooler

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no feed back?

Does anyone know where there are might good parties at? Maybe a hotel or club or any recommendation would be good. I want something upscale and classy it dont have to be something extravagant but nice.
 

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at least you have a girl for New Years, to me its always an extremely depressing night to be single
 

Someone Much cooler

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good your from NYC help me find something. Use your resources and help me find something fun. There will be plenty of girls at New years eve parties and walking arund manhattan...it will be paradise
 

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"The Saloon" is hands down the best club in the city in my opinion. There is also a club/bar place called "Porkys" which was always one of my favs
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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IMO, apartment parties are where it's at in NYC. I felt like a king last year. The clock barely struck 12 before I was hooking up.
 

Smartone84

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Yea but if only we were all so fortunate to know someone who's throwing an apartment party in NYC
 

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I'm also looking for a mixed crowd with differant music types. You see my GF is Puerto Rican and im Trinidadian so she likes spansih music (reggaeton and R&B) and i like Soca/clypso and Rap to dance to.
Yeah an apartment party sounds great but i dont really know anyone in NYC like that. Come on New yorkers show me what yall's city got lemme see something. =)
 

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Don't you have friends to party with? or friends that know of partys?
 

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i'll be visiting nyc for new years too from the 30th to the 2nd.

www.clubzone.com has info on clubs in every city but i would rather hear from people in ny which are the best places to go too? im looking for mostly hip hop music clubs in manhattan. someone has to know or atleast give advice on what else to do in nyc besides sight seeing.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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where to go.

i'm from ny and agree apartment parties are better (as i'm throwing one).

http://www.newyears.com/?partyType=$100%20and%20Under&stateList=32

this has a list of lots of the bars having parties. try to avoid the super cheap ones because those are mega-crowded and you can't do anything much besides rubbing up against other dudes.

cheers and happy new years
 

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I.A.F.Y.B.-guess you cant read so good. I dont know shyt in NYC im from North Philly(pennsylvania)

crazymedstudent thanks for the advice ill check that site out. Is your party an open party or just for people you know?

actionjaxson good idea.
 

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Someone Much cooler said:
I.A.F.Y.B.-guess you cant read so good. I dont know shyt in NYC im from North Philly(pennsylvania)
I work in West Philly. I was also contemplating the trek up to NYC. I'm looking into the scene myself. If you find anything decent, PM me.
 

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Someone Much cooler said:
I.A.F.Y.B.-guess you cant read so good. I dont know shyt in NYC im from North Philly(pennsylvania)

crazymedstudent thanks for the advice ill check that site out. Is your party an open party or just for people you know?

actionjaxson good idea.
no problem. the party is just for people I know. if it was another random night then I would maybe help out my fellow DJs but I regulate my own place.

good luck mate.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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