"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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New Year's Day Problem

wutang180

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hey guys. I came back home to miami from graduate school. I'm currently on my break. I've been going out almost everyday.

Recently on one of my outings, I've met these two girls at a local restuarant. I went up to both of them, talked for about 40 minutes, got their number and invited them out for New Years. However, at that time, i didn't have an exact plan for New Years. I called both of them on friday and told them that we were going to celebrate New Year's at my friend's house on saturday. They were really excited.

Here is the problem (don't laugh). I live only 10 minutes away from where the new year's party is going to be and these girls live about an hour a way (2 hours to get pick them up and to go to the party) . I really hate driving!!! I will probably have to borrow my brother's car to pick them up. I would rather have them drive and meet me at my friend's house instead of me driving that hour. What do yall think? Should I ask them to drive up to miami or should i just drive these girls myself since it is New Year's Eve.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Dante1a

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Have them drive, man. Tell them you can't come before because you have to (insert cool activity here).

If you pick them up, it will seem like you REALLY WANT them to come, i.e. dependant on them for something. Remember, your New Years in going to be great with or without them. They are coming because their New Years will be nothing without the time you show them.

Also, make sure this party kicks a**. :)
 

wutang180

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thanks for the advice. I definitely will have them drive.
 

Tear Gas

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Yeah definately make them drive here. It makes you look desperate if you pick them up. Dante knows what hes talking about.
 
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