Look, I get it. Women like to shop. Maybe not all, but most. I noticed a weird change recently with this girl. She got invited to a wedding and she went all out for it. Shoes, new dress, even a new hair style. She’s not even in it, just a guest. Very fishy. Then, on two separate occasions she went on a shopping spree, came back with copious amounts of new clothes. Having known her for about a while now she’s never done anything like this before. On a good note, still hooking up very often. Thoughts?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
New wardrobe, red flag?
- Thread starter JonnyD123
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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AJ84
Guest
She had a shopping spree. Women tend to do this from time to time. She's female. We like to shop for clothes and sometimes overdo it. Women also like to get dressed up for weddings.
Dial it down a bit and chill
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Well, if she's like 99% of the sluts out there, she knows she can pickup more orbiters from a wedding. Yay, a new flavor of the month.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.