Look, I get it. Women like to shop. Maybe not all, but most. I noticed a weird change recently with this girl. She got invited to a wedding and she went all out for it. Shoes, new dress, even a new hair style. She’s not even in it, just a guest. Very fishy. Then, on two separate occasions she went on a shopping spree, came back with copious amounts of new clothes. Having known her for about a while now she’s never done anything like this before. On a good note, still hooking up very often. Thoughts?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
New wardrobe, red flag?
- Thread starter JonnyD123
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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AJ84
Guest
She had a shopping spree. Women tend to do this from time to time. She's female. We like to shop for clothes and sometimes overdo it. Women also like to get dressed up for weddings.
Dial it down a bit and chill
wifehunter
Master Don Juan
Well, if she's like 99% of the sluts out there, she knows she can pickup more orbiters from a wedding. Yay, a new flavor of the month.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.