You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Quite so.skip the pimp said:ummm that site looks very fake and unprofessional
Is that Demon?Derek Flint said:Maybe "Mr know it all" can audition.
He's in San Diego, and he knows it all.
He's also a Marine, a Scholar, a future Lawyer and an all around he-man.
He also spends many of his posts trying to validate himself to a forum full of self-proclaimed virgins, all the while calling the same people he is trying to impress "Fags" so he is quite the interesting guy.
He also gets lots of dates by handing out his phone number, so he should be a shoo-in.
Since he constantly talks about how the forum is full of KJ's, and he's the real deal who's willing to back up his big talk, then he should audition.
I nominate you, Mr. Know It All, to audtion for this show, so everyone can see how cool you are.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Don't know. I believe he has been banned before posting under other names though.Zero Hero said:Is that Demon?
A poster who goes by the name of "Mr know it all"Zero Hero said:Well who are you referring to then?
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
harryden said:Thanks for this info.Now your link is not working well.